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Well, if the pictures in the article are what is on her profile that could be part of the problem. If you don't want men thinking you are all about sex, then don't post pictures of yourself in a bra in your profile.
That said, I can see what she has experienced happening. When I was doing OLD prior to meeting my husand I went on about 50 first dates in a 6 month period. I only went on second dates with 4 of the men I met. Generally, the men I liked didn't like me and vice versa. I didn't go on a second date with anyone I met on eharmony, those were my worst dates, actually.
I feel so bad for her, but she was too obsessed with appearances (his career, his car) and superficial things. And then she paid the price. Yikes. Be happy for what you have people (if you know it's something good)!
Some of us would feel destined for an eternity of nothing but Lifetime movies and ice cream after a few really bad online dates, but what about going on over 130 dates and still not finding Mr. Right?
Meet Belinda Stuckey, a 35-year-old school teacher from Sydney who claims she has gone on 136 dates in 17 months and has never taken her perspective suitors out for a second date.
I feel so bad for her, but she was too obsessed with appearances (his career, his car) and superficial things. And then she paid the price. Yikes. Be happy for what you have people (if you know it's something good)!
I don't feel bad for her, and I don't believe she misses him. She is just regretful of the fact she hasn't found what she was looking for. If any of those other relationships would have worked, she would have been like WHEW, glad I left him!!!! In her mind he was always going to be there whenever she wanted him to be, and now that he is not, she is not happy about it. I was in the exact same situation as this guy not too long ago, I was dumped after a long relationship where I thought we would be married, but she felt she could be happier, now three years later, she is still trying to get back with me, and saying she made a mistake. She didn't make a mistake, it's just that things are not working out for her as she thought, and taking me back was not going to make her happy.
She did the right thing, no matter what her motives were by letting that man go. And getting back together with him would not make her happy at all, she would still look for a reason to leave him. Hopefully she finds what she is looking for, but before she does that, I believe she needs to figure out, exactly what that is, because I don't think she knows.
I always wonder about the people who end up in these stories. "Hi, we'd like to write an article about you so readers across the world can criticize everything about you."
I don't feel bad for her, and I don't believe she misses him. She is just regretful of the fact she hasn't found what she was looking for. If any of those other relationships would have worked, she would have been like WHEW, glad I left him!!!! In her mind he was always going to be there whenever she wanted him to be, and now that he is not, she is not happy about it. I was in the exact same situation as this guy not too long ago, I was dumped after a long relationship where I thought we would be married, but she felt she could be happier, now three years later, she is still trying to get back with me, and saying she made a mistake. She didn't make a mistake, it's just that things are not working out for her as she thought, and taking me back was not going to make her happy.
She did the right thing, no matter what her motives were by letting that man go. And getting back together with him would not make her happy at all, she would still look for a reason to leave him. Hopefully she finds what she is looking for, but before she does that, I believe she needs to figure out, exactly what that is, because I don't think she knows.
I do agree with you that even now, if they got back together she would find a reason to leave. However, it does sound like in general the woman wanted things that she maybe even didn't deserve and was looking for love in the wrong way. The way some women run around looking for a wealthy/famous/super exciting guy instead of looking at the qualities that actually matter.
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I always wonder about the people who end up in these stories. "Hi, we'd like to write an article about you so readers across the world can criticize everything about you."
That sounds awesome.
Actually I think it is very telling.
If she didn't know or think this was going to happen, it speaks volumes about her lack of self awareness as a person.
If she didn't know or think this was going to happen, it speaks volumes about her lack of self awareness as a person.
I guess. Maybe she thought it was going to demonstrate how there are "no good men left" or something.
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