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The fact that this thread is pages long and the OP consistently has an answer, meaning is providing the answers she gets from her boyfriend, says to me that she wants to continue down this road of denial.
I can't imagine how he can still be emotionally attached if they have not lived or been together in six or eight years. There may be more to the story than what he is telling you. There is nothing you can do for him but listen. You have to decide if he is worth your time and emotional involvement.
If they both have attorneys, why do they have to discuss anything with each other? Let the attorneys handle it. It will cost more, but that is the price people have to pay when one person in the divorce refuses to compromise.
Divorce is all about timing, so I can understand why he waited. Six years should have given them both time to realize that the marriage is over and move on with the process so that it can be done as quickly and as easily as possible. The alimony threat probably won't happen. alimony is about her need and his ability to pay. If his wife has survived without alimony for six years or more, there is little probability of need.
I would tell him that you need to take a break until he gets his life sorted out. (Signed Divorce Papers!) Then I would start seeing other people. Start going to things you are interested in to meet people with similar interests. This will be your best test to see if he cares. If he does nothing move on. If he doesn't care you are seeing other people then you'll know you were just a friend with benefits while he was navigating his divorce.
The fact that this thread is pages long and the OP consistently has an answer, meaning is providing the answers she gets from her boyfriend, says to me that she wants to continue down this road of denial.
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