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Okay, there's no doubt about it, I'm probably quite an emotional lad. My relationship ended a week ago now, and it really was pretty short of around 10 weeks. I'm 17, my ex was 15. The whole thing was so out of the blue, she acted normal and her usual self the day before, and the next day she went blunt, then suddenly left me. I honestly had no clue this was coming. We had only admittedly seen each other once in that time period, we were a 15min train journey apart and she said she left me because we just wouldn't ever see each other. However, she said she had been thinking about what to do for the whole week after we broke up.
It turned out her friend said she saw me as a friend now, I'm not right for her. I didn't really understand, she lied to me again and again, I mean I was pretty hurt. The thing is, I've always been the one to be left, and I don't really understand why. I think I do find I'm committed to making things work, I don't know if anybody else gets like that?
But yeah, I find that I'm going around in circles, I'm always the one who is left. I kind of envy almost when people make things work. I feel the main issue is my anxiety has gone high, I do not understand what makes me not the right person. It's having a negative impact on my sleep and ability to learn for my A-Levels which really concerns me.
I consider myself to be quite a nice person really, me and my ex didn't argue once. I try to look after myself, I have a blanket of friends around me. But I'm ever asking the question, Am I not good enough? Why does this keep happening? And are teenage relationships really worth it?
Teenage relationships are for practice. You need to date lots of different types of people to find out who you get along with, how to get along, what you like in another person, and what you don't like. You're not supposed to marry/move in with someone you meet as a teenager - you need to take the time and experience to find the right person.
I will add that at 17, you should no longer be dating 15 year olds.
Teenage relationships are for practice. You need to date lots of different types of people to find out who you get along with, how to get along, what you like in another person, and what you don't like. You're not supposed to marry/move in with someone you meet as a teenager - you need to take the time and experience to find the right person.
I will add that at 17, you should no longer be dating 15 year olds.
What's so wrong with a sophomore/junior dating a freshman/sophomore in high school?
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For me, yes. If course. I learned a ton about having a relationship with my HS girlfriend. And learned sex basics; we were each other's first. And we've been friends now for 25 years and last time we had dinner we talked about going to our HS reunion together. But even without that friendship it was worth it for the first two points.
Assuming you're both mature enough to handle a serious relationship, of course it's worth it. Some of the greatest memories of my youth were with my high school BF and the 2 years we were together.
Not only do I barely take college relationships seriously, but high school? Yeah don't even worry about it. You have your whole life ahead of you. Consider the fact that most people get married around 30. You will have many many more girlfriends and she will become a distant memory.
There is always something to take away from any experience. So yes, there is always a point.
Take it as a learning experience about yourself and move on. The more you learn about yourself through dating and relationships, the better equipped you will be in the future to form higher quality relationships with people you are better matched to.
You will have many many more girlfriends and she will become a distant memory.
The second part of this is probably true, but the first... I don't know... most Americans don't have all that many relationships before they make a binding commitment. They waste decades of time with the wrong people and break up eventually, for all the wrong reasons. I know way too many people married to their child-hood sweethearts. The only exceptions are the free-spirits who never intended to settle down. They are not the norm.
The second part of this is probably true, but the first... I don't know... most Americans don't have all that many relationships before they make a binding commitment. They waste decades of time with the wrong people and break up eventually, for all the wrong reasons. I know way too many people married to their child-hood sweethearts. The only exceptions are the free-spirits who never intended to settle down. They are not the norm.
Marrying one's HS sweetheart, in the grand scheme of things, is rare. It was much more common to marry someone one met in college, but even that, now, has given way to people waiting until they have jobs after college graduation, and are advancing their careers, before dating seriously.
OP, maybe for you, highschool relationships aren't worth it. Maybe you're more mature than the girls you've met. You may come into your own at some point during your university career, or later. I'd focus on my studies, if I were you, and leave the turmoil of relationships behind for now.
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