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So, I forced myself to get out there and date and I went on a first date on Saturday and I felt no sparks or passion. And I could tell the guy was attractive, but I wasn't really attracted to him. Do you think this is a bad sign? Can all of that develop later on or should it be happening right away and obvious?
It was a very long date by the way.
So, I forced myself to get out there and date and I went on a first date on Saturday and I felt no sparks or passion. And I could tell the guy was attractive, but I wasn't really attracted to him. Do you think this is a bad sign? Can all of that develop later on or should it be happening right away and obvious? It was a very long date by the way.
Doesn't sound like you were thrilled about this. When you have those "very long dates" with someone you're at least somewhat into they don't feel like "very long dates" usually, its more like "oh wow, didn't realize we've been out this long"!
So in short, I'd say congrats on getting out there, but move on to the next guy instead of wasting this guy's time.
I also feel like I only ever really like one out of every 6 or 8 guys I go on a date with. Or am very attracted/interested in them. Is this normal?
Yes, same goes for me! I've been online dating for a couple of years now, probably met about 15 guys, I'd say I was probably very attracted both physically and mentally, to only about two of them.
So, I forced myself to get out there and date and I went on a first date on Saturday and I felt no sparks or passion. And I could tell the guy was attractive, but I wasn't really attracted to him. Do you think this is a bad sign? Can all of that develop later on or should it be happening right away and obvious?
It was a very long date by the way.
Not a bad sign, per se. You aren't always feeling it with everybody who crosses your path.
It MIGHT (MIGHT) be a sign that you're not ready to date, however. Particularly if you chronically experience that nobody interests you in particular.
I wouldn't say that full on infatuation has to start from date one, but in order to get to date two, there should be SOMETHING that piques your interest, in SOME way. If there is not, whether it's you or him, makes no difference...it's not happening.
So, I forced myself to get out there and date and I went on a first date on Saturday and I felt no sparks or passion. And I could tell the guy was attractive, but I wasn't really attracted to him. Do you think this is a bad sign? Can all of that develop later on or should it be happening right away and obvious?
It was a very long date by the way.
I am guessing he was attractive in the sense he would look attractive in a photograph or attractive from across the room, but something about his mannerisms wasn't attractive to you. Annoying sounding voice perhaps?
I am guessing he was attractive in the sense he would look attractive in a photograph or attractive from across the room, but something about his mannerisms wasn't attractive to you. Annoying sounding voice perhaps?
Yeah he was verrrry cute in his pictures, but in person his voice/mannerisms/even something about his face didn't appeal to me at all. I could be friends with him, but there was not much of an attraction there.
I am guessing he was attractive in the sense he would look attractive in a photograph or attractive from across the room, but something about his mannerisms wasn't attractive to you. Annoying sounding voice perhaps?
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Originally Posted by RoseLikeAnyOther
Yeah he was verrrry cute in his pictures, but in person his voice/mannerisms/even something about his face didn't appeal to me at all. I could be friends with him, but there was not much of an attraction there.
I wouldn't be too hard on yourself then. You can't really make yourself like someone.
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