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Yeah, it's hard to get mad at the ex-FWB. He's just being a guy. Like weezerfan84 said, most guys who have been in this situation will "check in" every once in awhile to see how things are going. If she's in a relationship, cool. If she's not, or if she's not happy, hey, let me know and we can hang out. It's not a direct threat to the other guy because most guys aren't looking to hook up with women who are taken.
That being said, it seems like your girlfriend has some boundary issues. I don't think she's cheating, but I do think she likes the attention. You want her and this other dude does too. Having been there, after a divorce you want to feel like you've still "got it". I can understand how she feels, but she needs to be more respectful of you by not playing patty-cake with this other guy. Relationships are built on trust, even the fun, lighthearted ones. Because it'll be the weekend the two of you have a falling out over something that ol' boy comes wagging his junk at your girlfriend again and if she's been entertaining his advances without returning them, it could lead to trouble.
Spot on advice. The part about you two falling out and that guy being there to catch her when she falls is very true as well. This is where she needs to respect your boundaries. This guy is only lurking, because she's not BLATANTLY shutting it down. I'm not saying she has to be all mean about it, but she needs to tell that guy she's happy in her relationship and she would respect if he would just leave her be. No need to check in or anything like that. If the guy is wise he'll take the hint, because if she wants to find him again, she knows where to look.
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