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I was wondering if anyone could relate. I have been searching for a compatible partner for years. I finally met this girl who I would marry in a second, if I was only more physically attracted to her. I have the connection with her and even love the look of her eyes and facial expressions and everything. The first time I locked eyes on her I felt a connection, but I just can't get over my lack of a physical attraction to her. I even never have a desire to have sex with her like I do most girls.
It doesn't work at all. I was just broken up with a woman who stated the same thing to me. She wasn't sexually attracted to me, even though there was other qualities she liked about me. It's a mixed bag honestly. Even she said that the guys she was sexually attracted to and became her boyfriends, didn't treat her all that great either. I'll admit that I do need to be sexually attracted to them and be able to stand the words that are coming out of their mouth. I need both quite honestly.
Sex is definitely important, but so is the other 97% of life when you wont be banging one another. Then what's important is if she can hold a conversation, if she's always up in your stuff or lets you do what you want to do, if you can laugh and get along together, and all that.
Location: Canada (I've lived in 5 different provinces)
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Being physically attracted to someone is not just about wanting to have sex. It's also about wanting to be physically close, touching, liking the way they smell, and being intimate in other ways. I don't know how a romantic relationship would ever last without it, then it would be just a friendship, room mate, or business partnership.
I have to be physically attracted to my partner . This situation wouldnt work for me. How long have you been dating? I did have a situation one time where the physical attraction grew after spending time together when it was not initially there for me. Sometimes these things take time, but for me that is more of the exception than the rule. 99% of the time I have found that if the physical attraction is not there in the beginning it never changes.
I was wondering if anyone could relate. I have been searching for a compatible partner for years. I finally met this girl who I would marry in a second, if I was only more physically attracted to her. I have the connection with her and even love the look of her eyes and facial expressions and everything. The first time I locked eyes on her I felt a connection, but I just can't get over my lack of a physical attraction to her. I even never have a desire to have sex with her like I do most girls.
So basically she has a good personality, but isn't hot. Not an uncommon situation.
So basically she has a good personality, but isn't hot. Not an uncommon situation.
Wrong on both.
We have chemistry and she has the right personality for ME, not necessarily generally good for everyone. Also, I am not expecting hot, and girls that I think are hot my friends often don't. I've been attracted to girls I would rate a 10 for me, but others would rate a 7. I'm usually attracted to average girls. This isn't really relevant though.
Being attracted to someone physically and sexually is extremely important in order to have a healthy and long lasting relationship. Otherwise you have a FWB type of thing. Don't compromise on this. When people lose their attractiveness for one another is when the possibility of having an extramarital affair becomes greater.
Also, who cares what your friends think. They are not dating the woman--you are--and it only matters what you think about her.
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