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So a little about me first is probably necessary. I am a 28 year old woman. I have had 3 relationships spanning about 7 years of my life. All of them I met online and were long distance relationships ( closed distance with 2. ) I am very introverted and have social anxiety and consequently I am socially inept. Dating is weird and awkward and confusing for me.
It's been 6 months since my last relationship ended and I have chosen to use the internet in my search for a partner. I have been seeing this one guy for about 2 weeks now. Before we met up we both discussed what we were "looking for." We've seen each other 3 times and the last time we did end up having sex. He had said that day that he would like to go out on Tuesday night and maybe stay the night since we both have Wednesdays off. He also mentioned that we wouldn't be able to do that if it ends up that he has to work because his work would be closed for the holiday. He got a text before he left about how they did in fact need him to work that day. He eventually left and we never made plans to see each other again.
Now, he texted me the day after and asked about how my day was going, we texted a little here and there the next couple of days but never made any plans to see each other. On Wednesday I texted him that I would like to see each other again. He asked when I was free and I told him. He too has social anxiety (something he mentioned to me before i mentioned it to him) and we had talked about how I've never really dated before so it was all new for me. So when I sent a text letting him know I was sorry if i overstepped that dating is new to me and if he wasn't interested that was fine as well. I told him I didn't want to come off too strong and chase him off or something lol (NOT my finest moment here.) Anyway, he texted back "Lol. Don't worry. I want to go out again!" and then explained that his job is demanding and exhausting and it's hard to make plans for days that he works. Which was something I already knew about from previous conversations.
Anyway, we ended up making plans for this coming Tuesday like we had intended to do last week and that's the last I heard from him. He hasn't gotten in touch with me at all since Wednesday night. He really does seem like a nice genuine guy but if he was truly interested wouldn't he touch base with me in some way? I just don't want to waste my time and so I'm looking for some opinions.
That means all these days... Thursday, Thursday night, Friday, Friday night, all day Saturday, all night Saturday, all day Sunday...have been radio silence. Does he also work on weekends?
Ever since you two had sex, you have not seen him and have not heard from him except the vague texts.
I think he just wants sex.
Look at all these couples with jobs who still see each other everyday. He didnt have a problem making time to talk to you before he got laid.
Anyway, we ended up making plans for this coming Tuesday like we had intended to do last week and that's the last I heard from him. He hasn't gotten in touch with me at all since Wednesday night. He really does seem like a nice genuine guy but if he was truly interested wouldn't he touch base with me in some way? I just don't want to waste my time and so I'm looking for some opinions.
The answer to your question is no. He may be very interested in you and still not touch base with you over the course of a week.
How are you wasting your time? You got something better to do on Tuesday? Give him a chance to negotiate a level of contact that is comfortable for you both.
If you are concerned about putting all your eggs in this basket, go ahead, get back online, and contact someone else. You are not in a committed relationship.
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