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A woman who dated me for three months broke up with me in February to get back with someone whom she dated before she met me. Not only did she break up with me, but she even said that she didn't want us to even see each other again. They were engaged within a month after they got back together. A few days ago, they broke up the engagement. She contacted me on Facebook messenger on Friday morning, because she misses me and wanted to meet me. I decided to meet her at Applebees on Friday night. I was on the impression that we would be friends. But she held my hand and we later kissed a few times that night. Should I get back together with her?
That's the problem. I don't want to get my heart broken again if she finds someone else.
Always a chance of heartbreak in a relationship. But the risk is very high here. She got back with an ex, whom she apparently wasn't over. Now that's backfired, and all of a sudden, she misses you now?
It really sounds like she's rebounding. Things fell through with her ex, now she's coming back to the guy she knows likes her and would take her back.
It always seems like a fallback when someone gets together with an ex again, then wanna come to you when it doesn't work out. And the fact she so readily left you when the ex came into the pic again seems to show her feelings for you were rather shallow.
I could be wrong though. So if you want to give her another chance you can. But, me personally, I wouldn't do it, or recommend it. But if you do, I would say be prepared for any outcome--good or bad.
People are so quick to jump the gun on this forum (website), but truth is: you never know.
She could have thought she loved the ex, got mixed up with him (they did have history together.. probably more than she did with you at the time), then she realized it wasn't a good fit for whatever reason. Maybe she did like you, but still had unresolved feelings with the ex. If you didn't know her for long before she left you, yes... you could give her a chance. Try not to get your heart too involved yet. But see where it leads... like I said, you never know. No one up here knows either. We don't know her or very much about the situation, you do.
Don't jump to conclusions.... I think it was a mistake to hold hands and kiss her so soon after.
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you were hurt and that you want to take it slowly this time as a result. Ask her to explain "the why" and "intentions". Trust your gut and be ready to cut off relations if you feel like she's using you in a rebound.
A woman who dated me for three months broke up with me in February to get back with someone whom she dated before she met me. Not only did she break up with me, but she even said that she didn't want us to even see each other again. They were engaged within a month after they got back together. A few days ago, they broke up the engagement. She contacted me on Facebook messenger on Friday morning, because she misses me and wanted to meet me. I decided to meet her at Applebees on Friday night. I was on the impression that we would be friends. But she held my hand and we later kissed a few times that night. Should I get back together with her?
No. You could probably get some action, seeing her feelings how she is vulnerable from her loss but I would not recommend doing so. She is going to hurt you again, or you might even hurt her; you can't be there for her emotionally and be there to rescue her when she knows how you feel about her. This type of arrangement can go on for years until someone finally has a backbone and when they do it is not going to be pretty.
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