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Old 06-25-2015, 12:32 AM
 
Location: CA
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This is one of those topics on CD that just never dies...

People shouldn't be looked over or underestimated based on their age alone. It should really be based on substance. Sometimes a younger person may be wise beyond their years. Sometimes an older person may have that something you've been looking for your whole life. You just never know until you give people a chance. If I had that attitude "oh, well, he HAS to be within X range of my age" - then I would have made a huge error in judgement.

The Love of my life happens to be 17 years older than me and he treats me very well consistently for the past 14 years. There's downsides for sure but overall, with any marriage there's downsides. That's just the nature of the beast.
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Old 06-25-2015, 12:58 AM
 
Location: Bellevue & Seal Beach
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There was a 15 year difference in my last relationship. Lasted 15 years. New guy is 11 years younger. They each approached me. But I guess I do like younger men.
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Old 06-25-2015, 05:45 AM
 
Location: Nashville, TN -
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I could teach you how to golf. After one lesson with me, your score will automatically increase by 10 strokes.
Why, that's very nice of you to offer your assistance, sir.
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Old 06-25-2015, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Springfield
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Why, that's very nice of you to offer your assistance, sir.
No problem. I can also give plenty of tips about hitting out of rough, sand traps, water, etc., since I seem to find them on a regular basis.

Then we can move on to some really bad tennis.

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Old 06-25-2015, 08:35 AM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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Age is only a number. After the age of 21, we are all adults. However, some people do seem to pay attention to their numerical age and act accordingly or how their same age friends are acting. With women, as they age, they seem to start dressing older and styling their hair older too.

One of my favorite tv shows is Younger on TV Land. The premise is that a newly divorced 40 year old woman decides to try to pass as a 26 year old in order to find employment. Her boss is also in her forties, but looks much much older. To the show's credit, the lead is played by an actress who is 40 years old.

And the reason why the two women look so totally different in age is their mannerisms and styling. The boss wears harsh makeup and dresses in older women designer clothing. The other woman looks younger because she wears no makeup and her clothing is casual. She also smiles more and doesn't have a tough demeanor.
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Old 06-25-2015, 08:39 AM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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Another aspect about age gaps is having different tastes in music, lifestyle, personal goals and activities. Sometimes it matters, sometimes it doesn't.

With one old boyfriend, even though he was only two years older than me, he loved the Beach Boys but I was into Elvis Costello. Meanwhile, my current boyfriend who is 23 years younger than me, loves music from the 80's also.
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Old 06-25-2015, 09:26 AM
 
Location: In the outlet by the lightswitch
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I know I've already chimed in on this... but on one hand you have examples in their very thread of age being "just a number" (big age difference). So before I say this, I recognize there are exceptions... but they are just that, exceptions/not the norm. And most of us aren't expections by definition.

But I really think age just isn't a number in most cases. If it wasn't, why don't you see a lot of 22-year-old men dating 70-year-old women... or a lot of 80-year-old men dating 30-year-old women? Just numbers after all, right? Well, if you cringed at either example, they really aren't just numbers for you, are they? There is a whole lot of life, baggage, experience, culture, etc... that goes with that "number." I know I have no desire to date someone 20 older or younger either. It has no appeal either way (one seems like dating a "parent" and the other seems like dating a "kid" to me).

With a few exceptions (a very few) most people stick to someone their age (or with a few years of their age.. usually +- 5 years... something like 75% of all marriages are within +- 5 years according to the Census and over 10 years it's down to just 3%... that's only marriages of course, not dating).

Most times (not all--I remember a lot of wonderful exceptions in this thread) when you see a very old person and a very young person together, it's often a matter of one person exploiting the looks/body of one while the other exploits the money of the other. So it's the old man movie star with a lot of money who attracts the very hot young woman like Richard Gere and his 32-year-old girlfriend (you don't see grandpa who lives on a tight budget and social security dating models do you?). Or maybe you see the hot guy just starting out in a field dating the rich, much older, female star (AKA Madonna and her 28-year-old actor boyfriend).
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Old 06-25-2015, 10:07 AM
 
Location: New Yawk
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Discounting superficial aspects (appearance and taste in music, movies, etc), age is NOT just a number. With age comes life experience, hopefully some wisdom, and different priorities. I could see having a mutual physical attraction with a 20-something, but couldn't see myself having a serious relationship with someone so young, because we'd be at completely different points in our life.
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Old 06-25-2015, 10:15 AM
 
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I know I've already chimed in on this... but on one hand you have examples in their very thread of age being "just a number" (big age difference). So before I say this, I recognize there are exceptions... but they are just that, exceptions/not the norm. And most of us aren't expections by definition.

But I really think age just isn't a number in most cases. If it wasn't, why don't you see a lot of 22-year-old men dating 70-year-old women... or a lot of 80-year-old men dating 30-year-old women? Just numbers after all, right? Well, if you cringed at either example, they really aren't just numbers for you, are they? There is a whole lot of life, baggage, experience, culture, etc... that goes with that "number." I know I have no desire to date someone 20 older or younger either. It has no appeal either way (one seems like dating a "parent" and the other seems like dating a "kid" to me).

With a few exceptions (a very few) most people stick to someone their age (or with a few years of their age.. usually +- 5 years... something like 75% of all marriages are within +- 5 years according to the Census and over 10 years it's down to just 3%... that's only marriages of course, not dating).

Most times (not all--I remember a lot of wonderful exceptions in this thread) when you see a very old person and a very young person together, it's often a matter of one person exploiting the looks/body of one while the other exploits the money of the other. So it's the old man movie star with a lot of money who attracts the very hot young woman like Richard Gere and his 32-year-old girlfriend (you don't see grandpa who lives on a tight budget and social security dating models do you?). Or maybe you see the hot guy just starting out in a field dating the rich, much older, female star (AKA Madonna and her 28-year-old actor boyfriend).
Madonna is dating men over 25 now? I wasn't aware.
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Old 06-25-2015, 10:26 AM
 
Location: In the outlet by the lightswitch
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Madonna is dating men over 25 now? I wasn't aware.
To be fair, I had to Google it. I just knew she's dating someone young.
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