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Only one point to be made (IMO) in the OP's favor here. Not quite where they were coming from, but it's this:
If you are female, and you are pretty in your pics (or at least not ugly) you will get a lot of guys who don't read a word of what you put in your profile but try to get in touch and start something, and then get upset when you ignore or reject them. They are reading a book by only looking at the pictures, because as far as they are concerned, that's all that matters...or because words are hard, I don't even know. If I see a guy that I think is hot, I go and look around on his profile, and if I see that he's looking for something I'm totally not, then I don't reach out to him.
So...if you're female and decent looking, you do get a lot of that. And it can be annoying, I guess. It's even worse when you put down that you are interested in casual sex. Apparently that's like saying that you're available for the use of any and every guy that wants some. Just because a lady doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean she has no standards...
Which goes to show, there are plenty of pretty women in the OLD world.
I don't say much in my profile, because I believe that it's pretty hard to really sum up a personality in an online dating profile. That being said, there are people who sound like complete **** in their profiles, and I wouldn't consider meeting them no matter how good they look. I get enough hits and emails with my 5 pics, and few words that I put in my profile, as well as those fill in the blanks questions. Some guys clearly don't read even the few lines I have written, and those guys I ignore. The guys who mention something from my profile, are the ones I tend to engage with. Also, the last guy I dated, I emailed him first but that was after receiving a wink and a like on one of my pics, I normally don't email guys first, but this guy looked like an actor that I have a huge crush from a TV show, so that's what I told him in my initial email...and he took the lead from there.
In short, what you're saying applies to probably more than half the woman in the OLD world. Which just proves that "Miss I'm to pretty for OLD" is indeed not.
I know this sounds very arrogant, but after looking at other profiles in my area, I may be too pretty for OLD, and it makes me embarrassed to be on there. There just aren't a lot of attractive women on there. Good news is that I've seen a few attractive men, a lot more so than women. Why is the mix so skewed?
So, avoid OLD. If you're as pretty as you think you are, why are you on there? You should have guys lined around the block.
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I know this sounds very arrogant, but after looking at other profiles in my area, I may be too pretty for OLD, and it makes me embarrassed to be on there. There just aren't a lot of attractive women on there. Good news is that I've seen a few attractive men, a lot more so than women. Why is the mix so skewed?
That's strange, one website I visited hoping to connect with prospects my own age, so many of them looked like Bad Santa, usually posing beside a motorcycle or a sportscar or an oil derrick....um....no...thank you...
Come to think of it, I've never had to resort to OLD. I must be prettier than I thought. LOL.
I think that there are categories of people who get on OLD, and it's not just a matter of "not attractive enough to land a date in real life"...
You have the shy people who feel safer behind a keyboard.
You have the busy adults who find the prospect of lurking bars or picking up an "out in the world" hobby to be daunting, as far as the scheduling/finding time part is concerned.
People who want something specific and don't know where exactly to go, to find it.
People who aren't even sure what they want and wish to play around with ideas on OLD until they figure it out.
People who have been in a marriage or otherwise secluded from the single world for a long time, and have kind of forgotten how to even do this whole dating thing.
People who are advertising for casual playmates.
People who are just bored and/or curious.
Tons of people who have whatever reasons, and many of them going beyond bad luck in love and basic desperation. One thing I'm finding out is that in talking to these people, and meeting one here or there for lunch, but holding off on anything more intimate than just talkity talk, I'm actually learning things about myself, what I like and what I don't, what I want. Coming out of an 18 year marriage, these are questions that I have to work out answers to before I can have another relationship. And I'm not shy about saying so, either, not that some of the guys seem to read it, but whatever.
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Just because a lady doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean she has no standards...
