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Old 05-27-2015, 09:22 PM
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I did have a successful date 7 days before I went on my last date which involved dinner and a carnival. So about 4 days after the date she asked me......."hey I have a quick question for you, do you think you want to see me again?

I told her yeah after I get through with my mom's birthday weekend. I started to notice the drop off in communication since that question which was last wednesday. So I am guessing that it was another guy she met and wanted to know where she stood with me and since I didn't answer with a "definitely let's do something on This day" she made have lost interest. She doesnt text me in the morning like she was right after our date. I sent a text asking if saturday is good for to see this weekend. So ladies when you ask this question is that your way of eliminating certain guys?

The only thing I have going for me now is a first date on Monday.
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Old 05-27-2015, 09:26 PM
 
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I would love to have the answers for you, but not all women behave rationally, and I can think of multiple reasons why she asked that and behaved that way since:

1. Trying to gauge your level of interest but her level of interest waned as a result of finding out that you still want her - weird
2. There's another guy in the picture just like you said
3. Her being flaky
4. Who knows

There is no point guessing, she's not that excited to see you again, then move on. Her loss, not yours.
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Old 05-27-2015, 09:27 PM
 
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Only players.
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Old 05-27-2015, 09:28 PM
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I would love to have the answers for you, but not all women behave rationally, and I can think of multiple reasons why she asked that and behaved that way since:

1. Trying to gauge your level of interest but her level of interest waned as a result of finding out that you still want her - weird
2. There's another guy in the picture just like you said
3. Her being flaky
4. Who knows

There is no point guessing, she's not that excited to see you again, then move on. Her loss, not yours.
She was but instead of just saying YES I was mentioning my mom's birthday weekend and told her once the holiday is over I will be able to let her know what day for sure.
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Old 05-27-2015, 09:30 PM
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Only players.
Only players what?
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Old 05-27-2015, 09:56 PM
 
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Birthday weekend? Do you live far from your mom and have to travel?
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Old 05-27-2015, 10:07 PM
 
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I did have a successful date 7 days before I went on my last date which involved dinner and a carnival. So about 4 days after the date she asked me......."hey I have a quick question for you, do you think you want to see me again?

I told her yeah after I get through with my mom's birthday weekend. I started to notice the drop off in communication since that question which was last wednesday. So I am guessing that it was another guy she met and wanted to know where she stood with me and since I didn't answer with a "definitely let's do something on This day" she made have lost interest. She doesnt text me in the morning like she was right after our date. I sent a text asking if saturday is good for to see this weekend. So ladies when you ask this question is that your way of eliminating certain guys?

The only thing I have going for me now is a first date on Monday.
If you wanted to see her again, you should have emailed or texted her THAT NIGHT and told her that. Why would you not have done that??
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Old 05-27-2015, 10:11 PM
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Birthday weekend? Do you live far from your mom and have to travel?
I was treating her to dinner and wasn't sure how much i would be left so i just wanted to get past the weekend first.
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Old 05-27-2015, 10:22 PM
 
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"I did have a successful date 7 days before I went on my last date which involved dinner and a carnival. So about 4 days after the date she asked me......."hey I have a quick question for you, do you think you want to see me again?
I told her yeah after I get through with my mom's birthday weekend."



Uh, a successful date includes someone saying we need to get together again soon and be serious about it. It doesn't sound like you really liked this girl very much. Why did she have to ask you about meeting again days later? Most women prefer the man to take the initiative. That is, to woo her. Why are women waiting for you to make a move?

We want a guy who we had a great date with to want to see us again ASAP and ask us right away or soon (48hrs.at the latest) after to see us. And you have to be sincere, not just happy some hot chick is giving you attention, you really have to have a connection. If you are not sure, that's fine, but if you have a great date you have to jump right on it. It doesn't happen often and usually the woman is the one waiting to see how enthusiastic the guy is. You have to learn how to court a woman and be specific about what you want and not just go for the ones who seem to like you. You go for the ones you like and feel a real connection with and then build on that and woo her.
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Old 05-28-2015, 07:32 AM
 
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So ladies when you ask this question is that your way of eliminating certain guys?
If I am reading this correctly, you had a decent first date and then spent the next 4 days texting with no mention of a 2nd date. It seems to me "do you want to see me again?" means exactly that. She was probably puzzled as to why the two of you were texting back and forth with no signs of getting together again, so she cut to the chase and then got this vague response from you. Her texting dropped off because of your lack of initiative in setting a second date, followed by your lukewarm response when she asked about it.

Is this really so mystifying? Of course she doesn't want to waste time on someone who doesn't demonstrate clear interest.
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