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So went out to lunch with a close colleague of mine, she's doing the OLD thing as well as I am. Anyway she started telling me that she's been seeing somebody, and recently they decided to be exclusive, and both of them have hidden their online profiles. She proceeded to tell me that she had logged on to her profile this past weekend to stop her auto-renewal and had noticed that he had been on in the past 24 hours, not sure how she can see this since he's hidden, but she said since they've communicated before she's able to see his online activity. I told her he might have been doing the same thing she was so I didn't think it was that big of a deal, however then she told me she went on the next day and he was on again, and then once more during the week.
I told her personally, I think if it's that frequent then it's not a good sign, however on the other hand, I'm under the impression there's not much you can do on there when your profile is hidden (other than search) and she confirmed to me that indeed it was still hidden. Also, he might be going on to see her activity (I'm assuming if she can see his online activity, then he can see hers).
As most of you know, I have "stalked" a dating candidate's profile before, but in those instances they were not hidden, and we did not discuss exclusivity, and I believe if we did and hid our profiles, that would be good enough for me. I think at some point you have to stop checking up on your partner and just trust them, but then again it is the beginning stages and if you see a red flag you probably shouldn't ignore it.
Anyway the both of us were going back and forth about it, and just wanted to throw it out there and get some people's opinions. Does she leave it alone? Talk to him about it? Keep monitoring what he's doing on there?
He might be telling other dates or people he is with bye. Also she logged on to see this, so her activity would show the same status no? Anyways if she is ALREADY snooping and untrusting, why is she getting into this relationship? I feel sorry for the guy honestly.
He might be telling other dates or people he is with bye. Also she logged on to see this, so her activity would show the same status no? Anyways if she is ALREADY snooping and untrusting, why is she getting into this relationship? I feel sorry for the guy honestly.
I don't know, do people really do this? Telling a virtual stranger you haven't met in person yet, "bye"...but yes her activity would show the same status. I think she only started to be not so trusting when saw him log on the first time, it wasn't like she logged on to look at his activity, she logged on to cancel her renewal, and spotted something that raised an eyebrow.
It's been a few years since I was on OLD, but at least on Match, I don't think you can see anything current if the profile is hidden. She's probably seeing old info. Also people here have attested to that info being inaccurate anyway.
My bf didn't delete his profile for several weeks after we were together. Turns out he couldn't figure out how to delete it and was on it a few times to try it. Then he thought he did delete it but got more suggestions through the site and signed on AGAIN.
You guys really need to quit the snooping. If he loses interest, you'll know soon enough.
It's been a few years since I was on OLD, but at least on Match, I don't think you can see anything current if the profile is hidden. She's probably seeing old info. Also people here have attested to that info being inaccurate anyway.
Match has a glitch where you can see on the mobile website the last time they logged in even if the profile is hidden.
My bf didn't delete his profile for several weeks after we were together. Turns out he couldn't figure out how to delete it and was on it a few times to try it. Then he thought he did delete it but got more suggestions through the site and signed on AGAIN.
You guys really need to quit the snooping. If he loses interest, you'll know soon enough.
Well I thought that's what it might be, but she said he's been on the site quite a while and has had relationships with women he's met off there before, so I'd assume he knows how to navigate the site pretty well.
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