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i saw this pic on fb where a couple was walking on the sidewalk and there was a comment from a girl complaining that the guy is doing the wrong thing by not walking on the curbside. I didn't comment but i was like "why and who notices that lol" in my head.
This got me thinking...when guys park their car, do women expect them to walk around and open their door too? and why?
I personally wouldn't do that cuz i think its unnecessary. I mean i'd hold a door open and let them enter the car first if we were in the cab but thats just common courtesy towards anyone.
I dated guys like that. I didn't expect for them to open my door, and assist me with everything, but found it really nice when they did.
I dated guys who were more casual, but when they see I need help, they'll help.
It's not a matter of what I thought.
They did little acts of kindness, because that's how they were raised to treat people.
The "woman on the inside" custom originated three centuries ago and it had a practical reason. In the horse & buggy era, it was done to protect woman against mud splattering from passing buggies.
And the cars of 2015 don't splatter? I also see it as a protection from vehicles that might leave the roadway. I want to be able to push my lady aside or take the brunt of the hit if a car is headed for us. *shrugs*
I find it a bit sad that so many young men today seem to find it demeaning to treat a lady with respect and go out of the way to open doors, etc. for her. I think I learned that at age 5 and have been doing it for 60+ years. I was taught it was the gentlemanly thing to do, so I did it with pride at a very young age and haven't found a reason to change.
It's no big deal, and it's probably not something that women should "expect", at least not openly. Still, I'd bet that it's appreciated by most.
My girlfriend is a strong independent woman that knows how to clean the gutters and repair drywall. That being said, I try to always open/close the car door for her. Walking into buildings, I always open the door and allow her to enter first.
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Charming!
I agree with Goddess. Your girlfriend is a lucky woman, sd.
I always enjoyed opening car doors for women. Or waiting for a woman, and standing up when she enters the room. Might mean little to you, But most women appreciate it. Some deeds lead to another.
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I always enjoyed opening car doors for women. Or waiting for a woman, and standing up when she enters the room. Might mean little to you, But most women appreciate it. Some deeds lead to another.
And some are just ridiculous. Standing for a woman who enters a room? Really? Unless a queen enters the damn room, I'm keeping my a$& seated. Waiting for a woman? What do you mean? If I say meet me at 9and she ain't ready at 9, forget about meeting.
I'm going on 34 years of marriage my hubby still walks on the side of traffic, still open the door for me on the car and entering buildings, still helps me remove and put on my coat and pulls out the chair still takes my hand while driving and when we enter a room as we make our way.. ...These gestures make a man very sexy.....Just saying...
And that's why your husband is still a happily married man after 34 years.
I agree that gentlemanly gestures make a man incredibly sexy. It takes a strong, confident, very masculine man to WANT to do these things occasionally without feeling he's being a wimp, like some other men seem to feel.
I love Southern politeness. You can't find that type of mannerism anywhere in the US.
I moved from Houston to CA and it's night and day with respect to polite mannerisms.
So true! I'm a transplanted Northerner, but Southern men are in a league of their own.
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