Husband contemplating divorce and I have a job interview tomorrow (love, attracted)

[Mikala43]

Just realize there will be time enough to worry about your domestic life after the job interview, and that if you do well, you will feel very good about yourself.

[cheryjohns]

Baby steps on everything. You can't fix everything tonight - or tomorrow.

Go and knock out that interview. You will feel better with a job you like.

Possibly take a break from each other - you may find out that you operate better without him. Or it may prove to both of you that you belong together, and work on the joint negativity.

Work on feeling positive - both about the job interview tomorrow and your life in general.

Good luck tomorrow!

[CapsChick]

Good luck with your interview. It's only an hour or so that you need to focus on that, and only that. Put your personal issues aside for that brief time.

Stop communicating with your husband via text. That's just ridiculous and will only exacerbate the problems. If you cannot have an actual conversation with your husband, your marriage will not survive. Instead of just getting medication, look into some marriage counseling since you clearly do not have functional communications -- and individual counseling for yourself.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by ShinyHappyLucy

If you really do complain a lot, I can see why he would be annoyed. That's a lot of negativity. I personally can't stand to be around incessant complainers.

^ This.

[Suncc49]

You and your husband sound more like bickering roommates than best friends and lovers. What attracted you to each other in the first place? Do you take your vows seriously? Is your marriage a godly based marriage?

You have to ask yourself if complaining to your husband about every little thing is productive to your marriage and relationship. A husband and wife should be each others biggest supporters, but temper it with instilling responsibility. If your husband is being irresponsible by playing video games as an addiction, then he can be called out on it.... If he is playing video games just to unwind after all other responsibilities are met.... encourage it!

I suggest reading this book - The Love Dare

Start doing a few of those acts to reconnect with whatever made your relationship work in the first place. I think you will find things that you appreciate your husband for.

[elliotgb]

Sorry to say the whole thing sounds childish.
Underneath all of this, there must be a core reason for him wanting a divorce.

That's what needs to be examined and discussed as adults and forget the petty arguments.

[VanHalen5150]

Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76

Yes, complaining about a crappy video game company is definitely grounds for divorce.

The OP sounds like a chronic NAG. That gets old after years and years, one day someone has had enough, and that's that. Don't matter what it is...

I saw it with my own parents. Married 33 years, one day my dad had enough... peace out

The actual argument was over something completely petty, but the cumulative result of 33 years of nagging and being a ***** made it what it was

[1986pacecar]

Let's see, your husband thinks your a nag, your mother says you were a mean kid, you think your Dad is a jerk and you pissed your sister off? And, you wonder why dear hubby is looking for a way out There is so much negativity from you that you may need to look into professional help.

[picklejuice]

Here's my suggestion and take on the whole thing:

YOU need therapy.
Your husband needs therapy.
Your mom needs therapy.
Your dad needs (if still alive) therapy.
Your sister needs therapy.

[G0DDESS]

It sounds like you have countless issues. You're angry, stressed, irritable. You also 'support' him? And he's staying with your family? Eh.. the entire situation is messed up. I agree with him : you need help. In the meantime, quit arguing with him about it. Ignore him, do your own thing for awhile and see what happens.