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I went out yesterday to volunteer for a group at a park. I have volunteered with this group before and, to be fair, it's not 100% about a girl. Overall, it's to raise money for cancer. I did it last year and we had a lot of fun. They messaged me to help them and I jumped up at the opportunity. Knowing this girl was going to be there though, I had to be there too. To show off, of course.
Last night presented a lot of challenges. I was a little late to help setup but when I got there, I was able to help out as much as I could. The forecast shown rain pretty much all day, with a few hours of sunshine. Once the rains came, so did 30mph winds and thunderstorms. Tents and canopies were no match and however secure, neither was our merchandise. We eventually called it off because it got so bad. We were in shorts and t-shirts, when it dropped down to 40 degrees.
About the girl though, she is one of the nicest person I could ever meet; however, this could also be misleading. She's funny and outgoing, hard working and entrusting. Last night, I was able to show her my true self. She told me before that she likes me around because I don't buckle under pressure - and last night had buckets full to give us.
Then I was hit with a whiffle-ball bat. One of the canopies we had came down, bending and eventually snapping a leg. She yelled out, "Damn it, now Chris is going to be upset. Even though we only started dating just recently." Reality came crashing down and it wasn't about the girl anymore. I wanted to get out of there as soon as possible. I was cold, wet and miserable.
While I think this is a great story but why does it have to always be about the girl? A girl that seems to find the wrong guys and wants to stick it out. I'm not done volunteering but I may be done trying so hard for a girl.
Women aren't ever about me, so why the **** would I ever do something because there's some woman there? Makes no sense, so I do stuff because I want to, not because there's some woman there I may like at the event. She most likely doesn't like me anyhow.
I have been supremely motivated to work out, volunteer, take classes, whatever, because of the presence of a certain guy. It's simultaneously thrilling and disappointing.
It happens. Try hard to keep your TRUE reason for being there at the forefront, and keep doing good.
I'm a little confused. She just started dating a guy named Chris so how is she sticking it out with the wrong guy?
How did you try so hard for a girl? It was quite a stretch to assume that just because a girl you're interested in is going to be there, that she's single and interested in you.
I'm a little confused. She just started dating a guy named Chris so how is she sticking it out with the wrong guy?
How did you try so hard for a girl? It was quite a stretch to assume that just because a girl you're interested in is going to be there, that she's single and interested in you.
A glimmer is all you need, right? The last guy she dated was just a tool. I've meet him a few times but it seemed he didn't want anything to do with her or her daughter. I have to try something. Even if it means nothing in the end.
However, I have learned from my past; if a girl has to have a guy with them every waking moment of her life, then she's not one I would want to date. I didn't know if she was single or dating. I could check Facebook, I guess, but it feels like I'm snooping around her life.
Women aren't ever about me, so why the **** would I ever do something because there's some woman there? Makes no sense, so I do stuff because I want to, not because there's some woman there I may like at the event. She most likely doesn't like me anyhow.
This is why I volunteer. I need something other than a girl to make me happy. Even if a potential date doesn't present itself, I helped in someway, I had a lot of fun and I met a few new people in the process.
Doesn't always to be about the girl. Just volunteer and have fun and get fulfillment from helping people and contributing to a needy cause. Doesn't mean you can't keep your eyes peeled, but don't make something like volunteer work about a chick who isn't into you.
A glimmer is all you need, right? The last guy she dated was just a tool. I've meet him a few times but it seemed he didn't want anything to do with her or her daughter.
Hold on. This volunteer chick is hot...I get it. She dates tools...I get that too.
But she has a daughter, and how badly do you want to raise her daughter???? Because that would be looking at it from her perspective. She can find plenty of guys who want in her pants.
This is why I volunteer. I need something other than a girl to make me happy. Even if a potential date doesn't present itself, I helped in someway, I had a lot of fun and I met a few new people in the process.
What you have to do is ask her out.
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I'm still trying to figure out who hit you with a whiffle-ball bat and why.
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