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No way. My mom has black hair and brown eyes. I married a green eyed redhead, I discovered my fondness for redheads at an early age and eventually found one.
The LAST thing I want, for a relationship is a man like my father. And when I am having sex with a man, I sure as hell don't wanna be reminded of my father then. I wouldn't even date someone with the same name as my father. Luckily his name isn't so commen you'd hear it too often.
So, ultimately, not true for me. And it always sounded like a crock.
The LAST thing I want, for a relationship is a man like my father. And when I am having sex with a man, I sure as hell don't wanna be reminded of my father then. I wouldn't even date someone with the same name as my father. Luckily his name isn't so commen you'd hear it too often.
So, ultimately, not true for me. And it always sounded like a crock.
What is it about your father that you would not want in your SO?
My wife is taller, slimmer, a different race and also speaks a different language to my mother. On the other hand she embodies all of the feminine attributes I associate with my Mother, most probably due to growing up with them and my mind 'absorbing' this as an ideal as she was, without a doubt, a wonderful Mum.
Never been attracted to women that were physically like my mother but as I thought about marriage and having children I found myself more interested in women that reminded of her... if that makes sense.
Stubborn
Loud / Obnoxious
Drinking Issues
Know-it-all
Bad with money
Irresponsible
Overly Sensitive
He's not a bad guy. But he's very immature, and all of those flaws are deal-breakers for me.
Makes sense. From my post #40.... which also applies to daughters..
The above applies to good mom-son relationships. When that relationship is not so good, she will not occupy that special place in her son's mind that's reserved for role models. Then there is something unresolved left. The son will most likely always be searching, whether he realizes it or not, for an opposite... somebody that, in his mind, can fulfill what he imagines is ideal and which was not there for him.
My wife is taller, slimmer, a different race and also speaks a different language to my mother. On the other hand she embodies all of the feminine attributes I associate with my Mother, most probably due to growing up with them and my mind 'absorbing' this as an ideal as she was, without a doubt, a wonderful Mum.
Never been attracted to women that were physically like my mother but as I thought about marriage and having children I found myself more interested in women that reminded of her... if that makes sense.
Who is the first person that a man loves? It's his mom, of course. She's his first source of unconditional love. And she becomes the symbolic model of what opposite-sex love should be like for him, whether he is aware of it or not. The things that become ideal in his mind can be something physical about her or maybe her personality traits or maybe a combination of both. But they are deep in his mind. And whether the man is aware of that or not, a man always has that as a reference point that he keeps falling back on.
The above applies to good mom-son relationships. When that relationship is not so good, she will not occupy that special place in her son's mind that's reserved for role models. Then there is something unresolved left. The son will most likely always be searching, whether he realizes it or not, for an opposite... somebody that, in his mind, can fulfill what he imagines is ideal and which was not there for him.
Along these lines, the relationship that the son's mother and father had is also very important. Why? Because he witnessed and learned that behavior from them. If it was a good relationship, that will serve him well. If it was abusive, physically or verbally, then that is most likely what he will take with him into his future relationships..... not so good.
Who is the first person that a man loves? It's his mom, of course. She's his first source of unconditional love. And she becomes the symbolic model of what opposite-sex love should be like for him, whether he is aware of it or not. The things that become ideal in his mind can be something physical about her or maybe her personality traits or maybe a combination of both. But they are deep in his mind. And whether the man is aware of that or not, a man always has that as a reference point that he keeps falling back on.
The above applies to good mom-son relationships. When that relationship is not so good, she will not occupy that special place in her son's mind that's reserved for role models. Then there is something unresolved left. The son will most likely always be searching, whether he realizes it or not, for an opposite... somebody that, in his mind, can fulfill what he imagines is ideal and which was not there for him.
Along these lines, the relationship that the son's mother and father had is also very important. Why? Because he witnessed and learned that behavior from them. If it was a good relationship, that will serve him well. If it was abusive, physically or verbally, then that is most likely what he will take with him into his future relationships..... not so good.
Well, whether I realize it or not .... None of the women that I've been attracted to resemble my mother to even the slightest degree. Unless you're one of these post pubescent freaks who secretly has a thing for his mother, then you're not going to go around looking for women who remind you of your mom.
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None of the women that I've been attracted to resemble my mother to even the slightest degree. Unless you're one of these post pubescent freaks who secretly has a thing for his mother, then you're not going to go around looking for women who remind you of your mom.
