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All you need is a hobby. Find something you can do on your own. Or get into some activities that will put you around other people. You slowly get better, though it takes time. I used to be so shy and awkward, I could order my own food if I went out. Now, I am perfectly fine in a professional setting. Places of business, addressing employees, etc. So, I got better on one end. Now far as casual social affairs, I am still working on that. lol But you do improve the more you do things.
I have the same issue. I had friends, but grew apart from them. So at this point, I just have many acquaintances, but no actual friends. And for the most part, I do fine. So you should do better. I have a few hobbies I enjoy, plus working on important things for the future.
So not having a relationship isn't the end of the world. Especially when the relationship is one-sided where you're the one that has to do all the compromising, while your boyfriend does nothing to reciprocate, and just takes. In all honesty, it does sound like you're not really into the guy, so much as he's just the only option right now, and he's better than nothing. But trust me, leaving is for the best. Afterward, spend more time with your friends. Take up some new hobbies with your friends. get into some new books, shows, or films, etc. There's lots of options open for hobbies. You may just have to look into some.
The longer you stay, the harder leaving will get.
Thank you, I appreciate your advice. I don't have many hobbies, at least not many that involve other people. I like to write, read, and listen to music. I also like to bike and go to the park. It's harder for me to make friends in college. There are groups to join but I never put an effort into joining them. I really want to change my attitude and be more positive. I hope I'm not making my bf sound like a selfish guy. He really is sweet and says nice things to me. That might not be enough for a relationship though.
Look, you are the one who came on asking for advice, not us. If you only want opinions that support your own antiquated views, those are not what you are going to get on an open forum. You are the one having relationship issues over this, not me.
Personally, you sound like a cold fish to me, and you are not ready for a serious, deep, intimate relationship. Time to grow up and be a woman..........not a little girl.
Don
Keep the trailer trash in the trailer dude. For all of us.
Ok, I was a little harsh. Sorry about that. But when you ask a question of a bunch of people, you are going to get a range of answers.
But you guys are right, I wasn't fully awake yet when I posted that. Maybe the OP will forgive me, we can go out and have a few drinks, go dancing a little, and see where that ends up.
Ok, I was a little harsh. Sorry about that. But when you ask a question of a bunch of people, you are going to get a range of answers.
But you guys are right, I wasn't fully awake yet when I posted that. Maybe the OP will forgive me, we can go out and have a few drinks, go dancing a little, and see where that ends up.
Don
Be careful, Don! You know how one thing always leads to another!!
OP, do your thing and find someone who supports that. Take some time to learn about who YOU are and what makes you interesting and lovable.
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I don't have many hobbies, at least not many that involve other people. I like to write, read, and listen to music. I also like to bike and go to the park. It's harder for me to make friends in college. There are groups to join but I never put an effort into joining them. I really want to change my attitude and be more positive. I hope I'm not making my bf sound like a selfish guy. He really is sweet and says nice things to me. That might not be enough for a relationship though.
Maybe the OP will forgive me, we can go out and have a few drinks, go dancing a little, and see where that ends up. 
