Ladies, could you date a guy who use to see prostitutes? (marriages, girls)
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I like to think I'm all liberal and openminded, but there is a certain ick factor. But I do know a couple of guys who have used prostitutes; nice guys, not all creepy or pervy.
I can certainly relate. One of my early relationships was with a woman who I knew before she started working. The first time I saw her with a customer made me sick to my stomach. Once that subsided it turned into concern/protective... overly so. I certainly can expect women turning away men who frequented prostitutes..
So if a man is single and he loves sex, that makes him a bad person? Picking someone out who you feel is physically attractive and paying her for her services is no different than paying a psych to help you work through your mental problems or going to a restaurant, ordering a steak dinner, and paying them for it. That doesn't mean that he's incapable of finding a good woman and loving her faithfully and tenderly.
Loving sex doesn't make anyone a bad person. Treating sex like a "service" that can be bought and paid for, and treating a human being as the object that provides that "service," in MY opinion, is unethical.
Unequivocally, NO, I would not date a man who I knew had ever been to a prostitute.
Real relationships take time and effort to make them work. Sometimes, a person is at a point in their life where they're just not ready, or not in a position, to commit... That doesn't make them a bad person. What are they suppose to do? Just not have sex?
Zounds, what a concept!!!! YES, there are people on earth who don't use other humans as their sex relief.
That is my point. The risk is unknowable. You can have a regular individual have 10 partners in their lifetime all unprotected vs a prostitute with 100s of partners all with condom use. The risk is unknowable. There is no real study that isolates populations of similar risk tolerance to make an assessment nor conclude prostitute vs regular person.
The linked article compares the porn star population against the Nevada's prostitutes in brothels... the prostitutes have lower cases simply because they are required to practice safe sex consistently. It becomes a habit as the result of their chosen lifestyle/work. I also believe there is a study out there of an isolated prostitute population (also Nevada) that shows that STD rates are fairly low when/if the people use safe sex consistently.... I think the 1980s timeframe.
And since this thread is specifically about men who sees prostitutes, we have no idea from which population of prostitutes he has been visiting. Are they drug addicted desperate street walkers who typically have lost sight/motivation to practice safe sex? You simply don't know. You also don't know he has been seeing a promiscuous partner in the past who is just as risky... especially if they have a history of not practicing safe sex.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
You asked a question and I answered.
I also said to each their own.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
I would not be with someone that frequented prostitutes. I prefer to be with someone that views sex the same way that I do, and that can go with out sex for a period of time with out having to go to a prostitute.
I can go without sex for a period of time... [Mod cut.]
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Originally Posted by Bluesmama
Seeing prostitutes in his past wouldn't be much different to me than sleeping with women who were promiscuous and didn't charge money for it (they are just as disease-prone).
Dang, now this is a wise woman.
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But I don't need any man who'd sleep with prostitutes after I'm in the picture. Yes, BIG deal-breaker in this case.
Well yeah... If I were with a woman and she cheated on me, I'd shake her to the left REAL quick. We could still sleep together, but there's no point in trying to be in a monogamous relationship if someone has proven themselves to be an unfaithful, disloyal infidel.
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And this is roughly the 4,000th thread on this topic on this forum. It has been discussed so many times that prostitution was pinned as a verboten topic for a while. Use the search function.
I can go without sex for a period of time... But it needs to be during a period of time when Aunt Flow is coming to visit... What's the point of being in a monogamous relationship if she's not letting you beat up the coochie on a regular basis?
And what if you have children? There might be months when you cannot have sex. Are you going to go to a prostitute? This is my point. I could not be with someone that seemingly has no control over their sex life.
Probably not. I don't know if it's because of the ick factor, fear of his 'lady friends' showing up years later, or him returning to his old ways. Probably all three
And what if you have children? There might be months when you cannot have sex. Are you going to go to a prostitute? This is my point. I could not be with someone that seemingly has no control over their sex life.
Oh yeah, that too... If it's something biological, that's different. But if it's going to be literally months, like in the case of having a baby, she could at least hook me up with some sucky sucky.
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Probably not. I don't know if it's because of the ick factor, fear of his 'lady friends' showing up years later, or him returning to his old ways. Probably all three
Why would she "show up" years later? It's not like she knows his real name or has his real phone number? If she's a proper professional she would never intrude on his personal life. As far as the "ick" factor, as long as he wore a prophylactic why would there be an "ick" factor?
Oh yeah, that too... If it's something biological, that's different. But if it's going to be literally months, like in the case of having a baby, she could at least hook me up with some sucky sucky.
Yes. Because what woman that is barely getting more than an hour of sleep at a time, that is tending to a newborn, and whose body is recovering from childbirth wouldn't want to give BJ's all the time so that her husband won't go to a prostitute. Good luck with that.
Oh yeah, that too... If it's something biological, that's different. But if it's going to be literally months, like in the case of having a baby, she could at least hook me up with some sucky sucky.
Why would she "show up" years later? It's not like she knows his real name or has his real phone number? If she's a proper professional she would never intrude on his personal life. As far as the "ick" factor, as long as he wore a prophylactic why would there be an "ick" factor?
Why are you questioning other peoples' opinions about an imaginary person? He could know a prostitute. At least one of them could be his friend. And it's an ick factor because peoples' GERMS can still be on/inside him.
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