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I've been dating this guy for the last month and a half. Things are going well and we've "had the talk" and seem to be on the same page with things. We've spent the night together a few times and he has suggested we exchange keys.
It seems a bit early to me for that, but then again, it may make sense. I work a normal 9-6 job but he works later hours, about 4pm to 2am (but varies and he can get off as early as 10/11). I can see how exchanging keys would make sense as he can come by later when he's done with work while I'm still half awake or I can be there at his place when he gets home.
I suggested that I can leave my apartment open for him (I am in a safe area and have on occasion forgot to lock it). He didn't feel comfortable with that option. However, like i said, it is very early in the relationship. How would you handle the situation? Give him a key or not?
That's too early for me Home is my private and safe place, and I wouldn't want just anyone being able to come and go as they pleased, even possibly when I am not there. So we'd have to be extremely close and serious, which I don't think would be the case after only 1 month.
No. I would wait until about 6 months. Sometimes it takes a bit for the crazy to show.
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Oh Lord, me and my husband must be freaks then, because we move very slow in our relationship. At 6 weeks timeframe we barely friends, barely.
Let see the timeline between me and my husband
We were friends for 2 years prior to dating. After his long chase, I gave in to be his girl.
And we were in a committed relationship for 1 year before I gave him sex, let alone give him the key.
I let him sleep over at my apartment, but I never give him the key. After work, he eat and sleep at my place but it all in my presence.
It not that I don't trust him, it because our distance is so close, there no need to give him the key prior to marriage.
We got married 4 months ago, and that was when I give him the key. Now as my 'husband', he have the key straight to my apartment.
And he is not a stranger. I'm the girl in his neighborhood. So he is my neighbor, my friend, my boyfriend, and now is my husband.
Now looking back, we sure move VERY slow. But I'm glad we did because we get to know know each others very well, there no secrets between us.
I test his patience alot and still around all these years, that gotta say something.
Give a guy the key after 6 week dating? Is a heck NO to me, No and just No!
But don't mind me, me and my husband are freaks anyways, lol
Do what you wish OP, different couples move at different pace. If you feel that you ready and you trust your boyfriend completely, then do it.
It's too early. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. If he can't or doesn't want to understand that, he's not the guy for you. If he pushes for it, he's got an agenda of some sort, which would be a bit of a red flag.
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