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I see nothing in this post about expecting her boyfriend to be Chuck Norris or start a fight to protect her.
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Originally Posted by lostnot
My bf just stood there and pretended he did not hear anything.
Also the thread title was called:
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Should I dump my BF who did not back me up?
It is clear she expected something other than him standing there, and even if ''backing her up'' was in the form of a verbal retort, in this day and age it is very likely to lead to physical escalation.
I agree. I don't think the boyfriend should necessarily confront anybody, but why didn't he say anything afterward? No reassurance, no sympathy, no anger on her behalf? Not impressed.
How do you know she didn't lay into him for not "backing her up" before he had the chance? "If you were a real man you woulda stood up to me!"
And afterward, when the scary yokels were gone, the reason for not saying anything like, "Are you OK? Can you believe those *******s?" for a whole week would be ... what?
You want him t9 possibly get stabbed break his nose or go to jail?
She should dump this guy if they haven't spoken in a week, but I would gladly suffer a broken nose to defend a girl I was with from such things. Jail won't come unless you are the first one to hit. The guy could still call them out on it. Getting stabbed or even shot is always a possibility, but that's no way to go through life. Worrying that standing up for yourself or others will get you stabbed or shot.
Well, one can never truly know if something stated here is true, but OP did say:
"After this, we both felt awkward and he was quiet the entire time. He hasnt called me for over a week now since that occurred."
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Originally Posted by dejaentendu19
She should dump this guy if they haven't spoken in a week, but I would gladly suffer a broken nose to defend a girl I was with from such things. Jail won't come unless you are the first one to hit. The guy could still call them out on it. Getting stabbed or even shot is always a possibility, but that's no way to go through life. Worrying that standing up for yourself or others will get you stabbed or shot.
This sounds like my foolish a$& talking when I was 18 and still living in the hood without a job and no real life experience. At 27, I know damn well the value in just walking away and not giving in to the urge to fight over a few words. Those guys were not worth the risk of a police record and if you think a broken nose would have been the worst that would have happened over it you should read a DC or Baltimore homicide story, I can guarantee a few of them started with a guy just standing up for himself over a few words.
Just last week, me and a few friends got into an altercation at a bar with one drunk guy who thought it was cool to start punching women and try to touch my friend's car in front of a group of 20 guys who were not gonna stand for someone touching our female friends. Only reason he got to walk home with just a torn shirt was the police got there and sent everyone home. Big difference between standing up for women over a few words and women actually being physically harmed.
Well, one can never truly know if something stated here is true, but OP did say:
"After this, we both felt awkward and he was quiet the entire time. He hasnt called me for over a week now since that occurred."
Well taking it literally then you think they just walked separate ways without saying goodbye? She didn't say that she was quiet so if she was humiliating him further about it maybe he just shut down.
I see nothing in this post about expecting her boyfriend to be Chuck Norris or start a fight to protect her.
That's because the op is a female, which means you have to read between the lines as women speak in code
just a brief glance between the lines and its obvious the op expected him to fight for her honor, even if it meant loss of life
phhhhttttt...the nookie cant be that good...sorry...next
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