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I told my wife I was going to quit my job to take care of the house full time and contribute back to society, since we can techically make due with her salary
It went well, she was ecstatic and practically jumped for joy at my new life decision
.....yah not really
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Why does one have to be in an office to be contributing financially or to society?
One doesn't.
And people who understand that and successfully arrange their lifestyle as they choose and as works for their household have no need to worry about convincing outside observers of same.
Pshh, I've known several very ambitious career women who said they wished they could find a man who would be willing to stay home and take care of all the household chores so they could just work and come home to a clean house, fresh dinner etc and just relax for the evening. However their husbands/partners weren't on board.
I've also known several stay at home dads, one of them at one point managed four kids on his own, including toddler twins, while the mom went on repeated business trips. IMO not an easy job for anyone.
I told my wife I was going to quit my job to take care of the house full time and contribute to society, since we can techically make due with her salary
It went well, she was ecstatic and practically jumped for joy at my new life decision
.....yah not really
LoL, I bet she told you the same thing mine would probably tell me, "You can contribute to this society, by helping to pay these bills".
Not every household requires two incomes to pay the bills, and, YES, ABSOLUTELY, there are people out there who are very envious of that and would love to be in such a situation, but for various reasons, aren't. Pointing out that envy is QUITE OFTEN at the root of people's condescension toward those who choose not to work if it's not financially necessary for them to do so in their situation is far from inaccurate.
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LoL, I bet she told you the same thing mine would probably tell me, "You can contribute to this society, by helping to pay these bills".
Ha yeah. My brother does the majority of the kid work (shuttling to soccer/music/skiing, cooking, etc) because my SIL travels a huge chunk of the time for work. Damn straight he's working full time too. They could get by on one income, but it would be a waste of his education and it would be harder economically (duh).
Oh I have, that is what this thread is pretty much about, and there was a "many of our friends are envious" (paraphrase) statement buried in here, but I'm not going to go look for it. .
I personally could care less about this whole situation, if it makes them both happy and it works, why not? Who is anyone to judge?
However I kind of have to agree with Timberline, one of my very close friends married a very wealthy man, she stayed home he went to work, and they didn't have kids until a couple of years into their marriage. We all thought it was great, good for her, we were very supportive. Until this day she insists her sister and I are extremely jealous and envious of her lifestyle. I personally I have my own life to live and her lifestyle is the last thing on my mind, her sister (who is my best friend) has a great life, doesn't work either because she's raising two children, and is not "jealous" of her in the least bit, if anything she is happy for her.
I think some women who live this lifestyle, have an inherit guilt about it and convince themselves people are "jealous" of them in order to deflect from the guilt they feel over it. In reality nobody cares that much, live your life whichever way you want, if you can afford to stay home and that makes you happy, then go for it, but don't start claiming other people are "envious" or "jealous" of you, because more often than not, people don't even give a second thought about it.
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I think some women who live this lifestyle, have an inherit guilt about it and convince themselves people are "jealous" of them in order to deflect from the guilt they feel over it. In reality nobody cares that much, live your life whichever way you want, if you can afford to stay home and that makes you happy, then go for it, but don't start claiming other people are "envious" or "jealous" of you, because more often than not, people don't even give a second thought about it.
Exactly. You got it. No one gives a damn, their insecurity is just palpable.
When people weigh in with hostility on others' lifestyles (or anything else that's 100% not their business, for that matter) it really does seem as though they do, inexplicably, give a damn, though. Go figure.
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