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My girlfriend texted me yesterday saying some of her friends were coming down to visit. I asked if she wanted me to still come over and she said of course. Today she texted me saying only one friend was coming and if it was ok if she went to dinner alone so they could catch up and she would ask him if he wanted to go downtown afterwards (which i would go to)
Should i see this as a red flag or should i not worry?why not invite me to dinner?
If I wanted to catch up with an old friend it wouldn't be the same if I had to take a stranger into account. We can't just sit there and talk like we would, because that would be rude to the third party, you have to engage them into the conversation. Her offer to meet you after is to demonstrate that nothing wrong is going on.
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My girlfriend texted me yesterday saying some of her friends were coming down to visit. I asked if she wanted me to still come over and she said of course. Today she texted me saying only one friend was coming and if it was ok if she went to dinner alone so they could catch up and she would ask him if he wanted to go downtown afterwards (which i would go to)
Should i see this as a red flag or should i not worry?why not invite me to dinner?
Doesn't seem too weird unless you think she'd skip dinner and go for a quickie lol
It's not a bad thing. They will have stuff to talk about that you won't know about, so you will be a third wheel. She invited you to do something with them after, which is a perfect way to include you.
She told you in advance, then told you when the plan changed. She is doing everything right.
It's not a bad thing. They will have stuff to talk about that you won't know about, so you will be a third wheel. She invited you to do something with them after, which is a perfect way to include you.
She told you in advance, then told you when the plan changed. She is doing everything right.
Pretty much agree with this. We all have insecurities, and sure she could fit in messing around with him, but most of the time people wouldn't invite you along period. At the end of the day, she's following pretty good protocol of having some freedom to catch up with old friends, but also include you in the mix too. I think you're sweating a bit too hard on this one. We've all been there, so we all understand where you're coming from.
We guys think of the worst situations when it involves another guy. It's the guy we don't trust when we don't even know anything about them.
Pretty much agree with this. We all have insecurities, and sure she could fit in messing around with him, but most of the time people wouldn't invite you along period. At the end of the day, she's following pretty good protocol of having some freedom to catch up with old friends, but also include you in the mix too. I think you're sweating a bit too hard on this one. We've all been there, so we all understand where you're coming from.
We guys think of the worst situations when it involves another guy. It's the guy we don't trust when we don't even know anything about them.
And that's the thing, at some point you have to trust, trust that you're with a good person who surrounds themselves with other good people. You don't have to be naive and blind, but you also can't go around being suspicious of every person your partner knows or comes into contact with either.
There's way too much talk about "I trust her, it's him I don't trust", not based on anything other than the guy exists and knows your GF. Save your distrust for people who've done something to actually deserve it and have more faith in the person you love.
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