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Old 06-14-2015, 04:37 PM
 
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I have been wondering about that and curious what people think . . . I would think that if each person is willing to compromise (and work on other issues in the relationship) it might work.
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Old 06-14-2015, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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There are certain things I'm not willing to compromise on - and smoking is one of them. I couldn't be in a relationship with a smoker. But that's me. Others can make it work.
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Old 06-14-2015, 04:59 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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It can be rough...I'm an ex-smoker so I sympathize with my bf. However, he is not allowed to smoke in the house. He can smoke on the deck and in the garage - in the summer the garage door has to be open.

As it is, I still don't like the smell of smoke in the garage...or the cars but I figure it is a compromise. He says he'll quit, but I know how that goes... and the relationship is not based on the expectation that he actually will.

For most people I'd say it doesn't work and is a constant battle - you have to have very clear lines what you'll put up with.
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Sure, I think if the non smoker could say "no big deal" they can get along just fine.

Why does every non smoker have to absolutely despise smokers?

Personally, I wouldn't like it because I'd be too tempted to start smoking again. I'm sure there are many people out there who would deal with it.
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:08 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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This is one of the very few absolute deal-breakers for me, no compromise at all on this. I would never date or be in a relationship with a smoker.
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:11 PM
 
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This is so interesting I am so glad I put it out there.
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:17 PM
 
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No, well I would date a smoker chick and I have but she wont stay a smoker long because ill take em and stomp on em whenever she smokes lol i do it in fun, and we make jokes about it but eventually they stop smoking out of my constant sarcastic barbs, my complaining about the smell, and me stomping out cigs heh
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:20 PM
 
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Sure, as long as the smoker quits smoking, they will have a decent chance else forget about
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:21 PM
 
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I have been wondering about that and curious what people think . . . I would think that if each person is willing to compromise (and work on other issues in the relationship) it might work.
It's certainly possible. It really depends on how flexible the non-smoker is, IMO. Personally, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who smoked....not saying I'm right, but I think a lot of non-smokers feel that way.
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Old 06-14-2015, 05:24 PM
 
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No, well I would date a smoker chick and I have but she wont stay a smoker long because ill take em and stomp on em whenever she smokes lol i do it in fun, and we make jokes about it but eventually they stop smoking out of my constant sarcastic barbs, my complaining about the smell, and me stomping out cigs heh
You're telling us you do this and it works? Somehow I doubt it. I wish it was that easy.
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