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OMG, she sounds cray cray. I moved in with a guy after two months (or rather he moved in with me), but I was 24. I wasn't a mother with two kids hovering around adulthood.
Let her go. She's going to try and get back with you, of course. But just don't go to that well again. That's some crazy dysfunction going on there.
Why is she in such a hurry to move in when you've only been dating around 2 months? You're still gettting to know one another.
/\This. The red flag is so big, Stevie Wonder can see it! Also, her sons are still at her place. Apparently she's still paying rent, bills, etc. But in my mindset, that is her place. With her sons!
Your definitely NOT the bad guy. She wants to move in with you after two months? That's a bit unreasonable, I mean you really don't know someone all that well after only two months.
I think you're being very reasonable, if she breaks up with you over this, believe me you are better off without her!
You sound sensible to me. She just had different expectations.
i agree with this and others like this, OP you set certain boundaries, and let her know what those boundaries are, and stuck to them. she pushed those boundaries and got upset when she couldnt manipulate you into doing what she wanted.
its too bad she has no respect for the boundaries that were set, in the end its her loss not yours.
Unless you lead her on and didn't mention it here....you are not the bad guy. Sounds like she made some assumptions that were unfounded and when discussed were not something she wanted to compromise on.
Let her move on to what she's looking for....and you move on as well....just next time make sure there is nothings are crystal clear for both of you.
I started seeing someone back in April...
There is chemistry, but we have differences of opinion. She has two sons (20 & 17). Anyway, once our relationship was established, she began to spend more time at my place...Now, I didn't realize it at first (my fault), but her intention was to move in with me. I objected to this for the following reasons:
1) Her sons are still at home - the older son is now home from college. I feel that her son's should be a priority and they are still too young to be without their mom
2) I live in a small apt. There is just not enough room for my and her things.
3) I'm divorced a year now; I've become accustomed to living alone.
We talked last night about 1 and 2. She stated that if she can't live with me, she can't be with me! I have tried to compromise with her, saying that she's welcome anytime, day or night. I told her that I love her, but given the circumstances, it's just not possible for her to live with me at this time. She's packing up and going back home. And ending our relationship!
So, am I the bad guy?
You are not wrong or the bad guy.
Sounds like she is a non-reasoning person. Childish if you would.
You won! Sounds crazy... You better not cave to her tantrum cause it would destroy you. She wants you to give in to her.. 'Its me or the highway!!'
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