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When I was 18-21, I slept around a lot until I had a steady girlfriend. I've had consistently fewer partners over the years, but have had way, way more partners than steady relationships. I've had three to four steady relationships in my life, but over twenty partners.
Did you end up having a lot of partners relative to the number of serious relationships you've had? Why?
"One night stands only take one night
Realtionships take at least two"
The reason is in the answer
Love the above and how true!
To me, it sounds like you are choosing to be in lots of indiscriminate relationships. If you are searching for a more meaningful relationship, you need to raise your standards a bit. Instead of looking for someone who satisfies one need, look for someone who meets your expectations in several areas. Only you can determine what those are.
Or you can choose to continue to sleep around with anyone and everyone...you would certainly not be the only one who does this. Just remember to put an overcoat on the fella before you go out. Would hate for him (or someone else...) to catch a "bug".
My partner to meaningful relationship ratio is quite low. Sleeping around/flings were never a big interest of mine, even in my youngest single days. I'm pretty risk-averse, overall, and my sexual activity has always tended to be rooted mostly in situations where there was a lot of trust and overall emotional intimacy.
By far, the vast majority of my sexual partners have been within the confines of serious, committed relationships. I had a very abbreviated "wild" period that most would likely not consider too wild, and really have never been what most would consider indiscriminate in my sexual activities. Rather the opposite, I'm fairly discriminating, and always was.
I was quite reserved and timid through much of public school.. .then I had my first girlfriend and that didn't end well... it ended very badly. By the time I was a junior in H.S, I basically said f%k it.. I'm going to just let happen happen. Along the way, I made some great friends with odd relationships... lots of exploration.. threw out a lot of preconceived notions.. let go of a bunch of biases.. learned to love and be loved... and learned that sex wasn't necessarily tied to love. I learned to respect all people regardless... and to never ever ever judge. I learned a lot about myself...
So I had a few more partners than meaning relationships. However, that was never my intention... I have no regrets. Still friends with a handful of my past partners....
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