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Originally Posted by Yiuppy
But those are women you find attractive.
Have you ever romantically pursued a woman who you were not physically attracted to?
You don't get it.
Yes, I found them attractive because of who they are.
Finding someone attractive and having them be objectively good looking are two different things. Very different.
So yes, I've pursued people that weren't by societal standards objectively good looking, because I was attracted to them. They had great personalities and we had chemistry.
This is NOT uncommon at all. People don't initially catch each other's eye, but you talk, and hit it off, and there is chemistry, and they look different to you over time.
99-100% of men will and do prefer BEAUTY over personality, no matter what. Which leads me to believe the majority of voters are women, with less than 15% of the Personality votes being men.
With that said, I have rejected a guy for looks before, when I was teenager. I still would not go out with him now if he asked. I just did not think happily of the thought of kissing him. There are men who think the same way about me, definitely. But its honest. All of these votes for personality are dishonest, imo. The way a person acts, thinks, speaks will keep the relationship, but without being physically desireable to someone first, you wont get a relationship and theres no interest in your personality.
Guys claim to prefer personality, yet all the women they see as unattractive, they keep in the "friendzone" or only use them for sex, and even admit how well they click with the woman; yet, because of her looks, will never pursue that personality romantically.
The question didn't ask whether or not looks were important at all - simply which is the MOST important. Saying that personality is the most important thing does not therefore mean that looks do not matter at all.
We are all free to answer for ourselves - calling other people liars for their answers is uncalled for.
Yes, I found them attractive because of who they are.
Finding someone attractive and having them be objectively good looking are two different things. Very different.
So yes, I've pursued people that weren't by societal standards objectively good looking, because I was attracted to them. They had great personalities and we had chemistry.
This is NOT uncommon at all. People don't initially catch each other's eye, but you talk, and hit it off, and there is chemistry, and they look different to you over time.
What Im getting from this is that you were attracted to them, but that in addition you also liked their personality. Meeting a societal standard of beauty has nothing to do with whether you as an individual are attracted to someones looks. If you werent attracted to the way they look, what attracted you to get to know their personality in the first place?
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Yiuppy
What Im getting from this is that you were attracted to them, but that in addition you also liked their personality. Meeting a societal standard of beauty has nothing to do with whether you as an individual are attracted to someones looks. If you werent attracted to the way they look, what attracted you to get to know their personality in the first place?
I was attracted to them because of their personality. For many of them, I would never have given them a second glance if just out and about.
To answer the bolded, we just ended up talking and hitting it off. The last woman I mentioned she sat (with her friend) next to me at a bar and we started talking and it clicked. Dated about 9 mos, and we've become good friends.
That's usually how these things happen. You're out and about at fairs, shows, bars, whatever event and you're talking to people (young, old, male, female, whatever) and sometimes something just clicks and there is chemistry.
Perhaps interaction? Most people interact with a variety of people all the time, regardless of physical appearance.
It seems that some people on this thread will only talk to attractive people. I find that odd.
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