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I replied please don't call me weird or goofy,i don't like that. She said don't be so sensitive. I'm just teasing you. That's how i am. You should know this by now.
Yeah, you know what? She's a jackass. You set up a boundary, and she attempted to diminish because she has no respect for you. Why does she even care whether you use a wallet? If you've been together a while, SHE should know this by now, and there is no need for commentary on it.
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Just start calling her dizzy or klutzy or something. When she gets bothered tell her not to be so sensitive and you're just playing around.
Yep. That's the only language people like that understand.
No. Perhaps you were too sensitive, or perhaps her comedic delivery was off. I've been guilty of the latter many times, not out of malicious intent but because what is funny to me might not be funny to someone else. (Side note: when the Mr. and I were first dating, he was still a very brooding, melancholy lad. I had cracked a joke that was a reference to a line from a TV show, and he took it the wrong way and actually broke up with me over it. A couple of weeks later we finally hashed it out, and I told him flat out that he needs to loosen up because no one should be taking life that seriously at 19.)
Go home, explain that certain topics are bit sensitive for you, and she'll most likely apologize, too. Then go have some make-up sex.
When my husband and I first started dating - he didn't like when I called him "stupid" - even as a joke (I only did it as a joke - it's not like I went around calling him stupid and meaning it!). He said that it's just something that he's sensitive about even though he knows deep down that I don't think he's stupid. So I stopped calling him stupid. Time went on and now he wouldn't care if I did because he REALLY knows that I don't think he's stupid. But he was sensitive about it and I respected his wishes.
So - either your girlfriend was just trying to lighten the mood because she felt uncomfortable or she didn't respect that you were serious. Have a talk with her and just explain that you are all for joking around - but that you don't like that kind of joking around. Everyone has things that they are sensitive about.
NO. You don't change how you are. You just make better attempts to communicate with her about your likes and dislikes. Talk. Talk. Then talk some more.
When my husband and I first started dating - he didn't like when I called him "stupid" - even as a joke (I only did it as a joke - it's not like I went around calling him stupid and meaning it!). He said that it's just something that he's sensitive about even though he knows deep down that I don't think he's stupid. So I stopped calling him stupid. .
For one of my best friends and her husband, their affectionate pet name for each other is "dork." I know it's him calling when she answers the phone, "What's up, dorkus?"
OP - well it's good you know where your "buttons" are you don't like being called certain names, even though your girlfriend is saying so in a fun way. I'm sure if she didn't like being called certain names and said so you would respect that.
I think it's good that you said something, and she heard you. A good relationship has good communication and respect.
You did get a tad bit sensitive over the matter...but as for the manly thing--that's not what it's about.
I'm often called goofy, weird, and silly by everyone. I don't mind it at all. I actually take it as a compliment because I want people to feel comfortable with me. I want the atmosphere to be refreshing, not oppressive.
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