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Old 06-20-2015, 10:52 PM
 
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However, I do not like OLD because I realized compatible people will come into your life naturally....
The appeal of online dating is in the negation of the above statement; namely, that compatible [single] people do NOT pass through one's "real life" experience naturally, whence it is necessary to resort to surrogate means. Those means tend to be "dating products" (as another poster in another thread titled them), such as speed-dating, matchmaker services, or online dating.

Physically-attractive people have the advantage of garnering more attention from potential candidate partners, and finding said partners to be more receptive if an approach is made. But if one's life simply does not intersect with enough such candidate partners, then the advantage of being attractive is rendered moot.
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Old 06-20-2015, 10:56 PM
 
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I know some good looking people who other good looking people are attracted too. They are just socially awkward. Or introverted. And just can't initiate conversations that other attractive people can. That's what makes them so successful at dating. They like people and aren't scared of them. Or maybe they are just lazy and don't want to go out.
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Old 06-20-2015, 11:01 PM
 
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Why would compatible people be any less likely to be present in a targeted online search than in randomly crossing one's path while going to the post office, say?
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Old 06-20-2015, 11:04 PM
 
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Why would compatible people be any less likely to be present in a targeted online search than in randomly crossing one's path while going to the post office, say?
I look at online dating as blind dates pretty much. At least when you meet someone organically you can feel them out with conversation. I think you can gauge chemistry a lot better.
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Old 06-20-2015, 11:06 PM
 
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Weird, I felt my husband out with conversation before even setting our first date.
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Old 06-20-2015, 11:10 PM
 
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I wanted a sober guy who does not drink alcohol.
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Old 06-21-2015, 12:21 AM
 
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Because if you're looking for marriage material you don't want men who hang out in bars.
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Old 06-21-2015, 12:27 AM
 
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Because if you're looking for marriage material you don't want men who hang out in bars.
I met my husband in a bar.... we've been married...mostly happily even....for over two decades. I think your point is moo, to say the least.

You find people in all sorts of places.
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Old 06-21-2015, 12:35 AM
 
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Hah. My parents met in a bar in 1971. Married since '72.
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Old 06-21-2015, 12:40 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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Hah. My parents met in a bar in 1971. Married since '72.
Connection with another is connection... could happen at a bus stop, nightclub, or Bar Mitzvah............
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