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After replying to so many relationship threads here, I thought I'd ask C-D for advice on my own situation. Please note I am legit, not a first-time poster with a wacky story.
I'm seeing 2 girls, casually. The truth is, they both know each other, but are not friends with each other.
Bachelorette #1
is a opinionated hippie chick. She's covered in tattoos, and I know she smokes pot - neither of which I like. There's definitely a tug-of-wills going on between us. She has told me to my face that I am an Egoist, a control freak, and told me I should change how I think & act to be more like 'her theory', which is what I call that Think-n-Grow-Rich positive affirmations and other liberal hippie claptrap she heard on a yoga mat.
She has a slamming bod, very average face, makes good money, and is closer to me in age. She thinks she's hot $#@!, I DONT - which bizarrely propels my confidence around her. I dont think she wants anything more than a summer fling, and she was drunk the night we met. (We've been somewhat physical already). She's the type to just shrug if you confront her about sleeping with other guys. But she thinks I'm a Player (albeit somewhat inept), so we're therefore equally matched. Despite me seeming to p*ss-her-off, she at least thinks about me when we DONT see each other. It's so hard to find someone who even cares.
I fear that I would just another notch on her lipstick case.
I've known 'of her' for about 5 months, but we have been hanging out a couple times more lately.
Bachelorette #2
is a very bright, personable poly sci/journalism major at a local college.
She has no tats, no drugs, very politically aware, somewhat more conservative, never seen her drink or even talk about it. She's a BROKE single mom, and grew up in a pretty rough, abusive environment and has no contact with any family (baby daddy is long gone too, she promises) but seems to have a good attitude / practicality about the ugly side of life she's seen (she's had counseling).
We have a fantastic mental connection, we talk for hours about everything and nothing. Last weekend she gave me a movie to watch (art house film) and when I talked seriously about HOW to write & publish a book she's got brewing in her head, she got so excited I think she almost kissed me. (We have not been on a real date, but we txt). Her child is VERY young, but she appears more open to the idea of dating as the months have gone by and we've been talking.
She has a nice bod, beautiful face (but she doesn't think she is beautiful), makes peanuts as a waitress/server/student, and is probably too young for me.
I fear that dating her will be a 100% expense on me, no worse - I think she'll ask for ME to pay for the babysitter when I ask her out.
To be honest, I think she's wifey material in 2 years (if she doesn't come with $80,000 in student loans)
So my relationship question is, which do you chose, or neither, and why?
After replying to so many relationship threads here, I thought I'd ask C-D for advice on my own situation. Please note I am legit, not a first-time poster with a wacky story.
I'm seeing 2 girls, casually. The truth is, they both know each other, but are not friends with each other.
Bachelorette #1
is a opinionated hippie chick. She's covered in tattoos, and I know she smokes pot - neither of which I like. There's definitely a tug-of-wills going on between us. She has told me to my face that I am an Egoist, a control freak, and told me I should change how I think & act to be more like 'her theory', which is what I call that Think-n-Grow-Rich positive affirmations and other liberal hippie claptrap she heard on a yoga mat.
She has a slamming bod, very average face, makes good money, and is closer to me in age. She thinks she's hot $#@!, I DONT - which bizarrely propels my confidence around her. I dont think she wants anything more than a summer fling, and she was drunk the night we met. (We've been somewhat physical already). She's the type to just shrug if you confront her about sleeping with other guys. But she thinks I'm a Player (albeit somewhat inept), so we're therefore equally matched. Despite me seeming to p*ss-her-off, she at least thinks about me when we DONT see each other. It's so hard to find someone who even cares.
I fear that I would just another notch on her lipstick case.
I've known 'of her' for about 5 months, but we have been hanging out a couple times more lately.
Bachelorette #2
is a very bright, personable poly sci/journalism major at a local college.
She has no tats, no drugs, very politically aware, somewhat more conservative, never seen her drink or even talk about it. She's a BROKE single mom, and grew up in a pretty rough, abusive environment and has no contact with any family (baby daddy is long gone too, she promises) but seems to have a good attitude / practicality about the ugly side of life she's seen (she's had counseling).
We have a fantastic mental connection, we talk for hours about everything and nothing. Last weekend she gave me a movie to watch (art house film) and when I talked seriously about HOW to write & publish a book she's got brewing in her head, she got so excited I think she almost kissed me. (We have not been on a real date, but we txt). Her child is VERY young, but she appears more open to the idea of dating as the months have gone by and we've been talking.
She has a nice bod, beautiful face (but she doesn't think she is beautiful), makes peanuts as a waitress/server/student, and is probably too young for me.
I fear that dating her will be a 100% expense on me, no worse - I think she'll ask for ME to pay for the babysitter when I ask her out.
To be honest, I think she's wifey material in 2 years (if she doesn't come with $80,000 in student loans)
So my relationship question is, which do you chose, or neither, and why?
It would be neither for me, but you seem to like Bachelorette #2, so good luck!
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After replying to so many relationship threads here, I thought I'd ask C-D for advice on my own situation. Please note I am legit, not a first-time poster with a wacky story.
I'm seeing 2 girls, casually. The truth is, they both know each other, but are not friends with each other.
Bachelorette #1
is a opinionated hippie chick. She's covered in tattoos, and I know she smokes pot - neither of which I like. There's definitely a tug-of-wills going on between us. She has told me to my face that I am an Egoist, a control freak, and told me I should change how I think & act to be more like 'her theory', which is what I call that Think-n-Grow-Rich positive affirmations and other liberal hippie claptrap she heard on a yoga mat.
She has a slamming bod, very average face, makes good money, and is closer to me in age. She thinks she's hot $#@!, I DONT - which bizarrely propels my confidence around her. I dont think she wants anything more than a summer fling, and she was drunk the night we met. (We've been somewhat physical already). She's the type to just shrug if you confront her about sleeping with other guys. But she thinks I'm a Player (albeit somewhat inept), so we're therefore equally matched. Despite me seeming to p*ss-her-off, she at least thinks about me when we DONT see each other. It's so hard to find someone who even cares.
I fear that I would just another notch on her lipstick case.
I've known 'of her' for about 5 months, but we have been hanging out a couple times more lately.
Bachelorette #2
is a very bright, personable poly sci/journalism major at a local college.
She has no tats, no drugs, very politically aware, somewhat more conservative, never seen her drink or even talk about it. She's a BROKE single mom, and grew up in a pretty rough, abusive environment and has no contact with any family (baby daddy is long gone too, she promises) but seems to have a good attitude / practicality about the ugly side of life she's seen (she's had counseling).
We have a fantastic mental connection, we talk for hours about everything and nothing. Last weekend she gave me a movie to watch (art house film) and when I talked seriously about HOW to write & publish a book she's got brewing in her head, she got so excited I think she almost kissed me. (We have not been on a real date, but we txt). Her child is VERY young, but she appears more open to the idea of dating as the months have gone by and we've been talking.
She has a nice bod, beautiful face (but she doesn't think she is beautiful), makes peanuts as a waitress/server/student, and is probably too young for me.
I fear that dating her will be a 100% expense on me, no worse - I think she'll ask for ME to pay for the babysitter when I ask her out.
To be honest, I think she's wifey material in 2 years (if she doesn't come with $80,000 in student loans)
So my relationship question is, which do you chose, or neither, and why?
I'd do the fling with number one. #2 is too broke for my liking and she has a kid, big no-no in D's world.
What is your long-term game plan? A lay for a while or an LTR?
#2 if it's the latter, good things are not always an instant payoff.
With #1, she's always going to be a ***** who you have no chance with long term...
I have no idea about your expenses or income, but if you are that worried about having to pay for a babysitter when you go out, I would imagine you are in no shape to even be dating someone like this, but there could be a big payoff when she graduates, gets a nice job and you can get married.
After replying to so many relationship threads here, I thought I'd ask C-D for advice on my own situation. Please note I am legit, not a first-time poster with a wacky story.
I'm seeing 2 girls, casually. The truth is, they both know each other, but are not friends with each other.
Bachelorette #1
is a opinionated hippie chick. She's covered in tattoos, and I know she smokes pot - neither of which I like. There's definitely a tug-of-wills going on between us. She has told me to my face that I am an Egoist, a control freak, and told me I should change how I think & act to be more like 'her theory', which is what I call that Think-n-Grow-Rich positive affirmations and other liberal hippie claptrap she heard on a yoga mat.
She has a slamming bod, very average face, makes good money, and is closer to me in age. She thinks she's hot $#@!, I DONT - which bizarrely propels my confidence around her. I dont think she wants anything more than a summer fling, and she was drunk the night we met. (We've been somewhat physical already). She's the type to just shrug if you confront her about sleeping with other guys. But she thinks I'm a Player (albeit somewhat inept), so we're therefore equally matched. Despite me seeming to p*ss-her-off, she at least thinks about me when we DONT see each other. It's so hard to find someone who even cares.
I fear that I would just another notch on her lipstick case.
I've known 'of her' for about 5 months, but we have been hanging out a couple times more lately.
Bachelorette #2
is a very bright, personable poly sci/journalism major at a local college.
She has no tats, no drugs, very politically aware, somewhat more conservative, never seen her drink or even talk about it. She's a BROKE single mom, and grew up in a pretty rough, abusive environment and has no contact with any family (baby daddy is long gone too, she promises) but seems to have a good attitude / practicality about the ugly side of life she's seen (she's had counseling).
We have a fantastic mental connection, we talk for hours about everything and nothing. Last weekend she gave me a movie to watch (art house film) and when I talked seriously about HOW to write & publish a book she's got brewing in her head, she got so excited I think she almost kissed me. (We have not been on a real date, but we txt). Her child is VERY young, but she appears more open to the idea of dating as the months have gone by and we've been talking.
She has a nice bod, beautiful face (but she doesn't think she is beautiful), makes peanuts as a waitress/server/student, and is probably too young for me.
I fear that dating her will be a 100% expense on me, no worse - I think she'll ask for ME to pay for the babysitter when I ask her out.
To be honest, I think she's wifey material in 2 years (if she doesn't come with $80,000 in student loans)
So my relationship question is, which do you chose, or neither, and why?
The tattoos are an instant disqualifier, but women with tattoos are probably more sexual because they seek more attention and validation.
After replying to so many relationship threads here, I thought I'd ask C-D for advice on my own situation. Please note I am legit, not a first-time poster with a wacky story.
I'm seeing 2 girls, casually. The truth is, they both know each other, but are not friends with each other.
Bachelorette #1
is a opinionated hippie chick. She's covered in tattoos, and I know she smokes pot - neither of which I like. There's definitely a tug-of-wills going on between us. She has told me to my face that I am an Egoist, a control freak, and told me I should change how I think & act to be more like 'her theory', which is what I call that Think-n-Grow-Rich positive affirmations and other liberal hippie claptrap she heard on a yoga mat.
She has a slamming bod, very average face, makes good money, and is closer to me in age. She thinks she's hot $#@!, I DONT - which bizarrely propels my confidence around her. I dont think she wants anything more than a summer fling, and she was drunk the night we met. (We've been somewhat physical already). She's the type to just shrug if you confront her about sleeping with other guys. But she thinks I'm a Player (albeit somewhat inept), so we're therefore equally matched. Despite me seeming to p*ss-her-off, she at least thinks about me when we DONT see each other. It's so hard to find someone who even cares.
I fear that I would just another notch on her lipstick case.
I've known 'of her' for about 5 months, but we have been hanging out a couple times more lately.
Bachelorette #2
is a very bright, personable poly sci/journalism major at a local college.
She has no tats, no drugs, very politically aware, somewhat more conservative, never seen her drink or even talk about it. She's a BROKE single mom, and grew up in a pretty rough, abusive environment and has no contact with any family (baby daddy is long gone too, she promises) but seems to have a good attitude / practicality about the ugly side of life she's seen (she's had counseling).
We have a fantastic mental connection, we talk for hours about everything and nothing. Last weekend she gave me a movie to watch (art house film) and when I talked seriously about HOW to write & publish a book she's got brewing in her head, she got so excited I think she almost kissed me. (We have not been on a real date, but we txt). Her child is VERY young, but she appears more open to the idea of dating as the months have gone by and we've been talking.
She has a nice bod, beautiful face (but she doesn't think she is beautiful), makes peanuts as a waitress/server/student, and is probably too young for me.
I fear that dating her will be a 100% expense on me, no worse - I think she'll ask for ME to pay for the babysitter when I ask her out.
To be honest, I think she's wifey material in 2 years (if she doesn't come with $80,000 in student loans)
So my relationship question is, which do you chose, or neither, and why?
Are you this desperate? Choose "none of the above".
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