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A few months ago, I discovered my DH was using marijuana. I found it. And from what I found, he uses it a lot. Probably daily. He uses a vaporizer or edibles, so it is easy to hide.
We have been married for 12 years. I have never known him to use any drugs. Just a social drink or two, which I enjoy as well. We have 2 kids.
Part of me says, it's no big deal. But it's a very small part. I am actually angry, disappointed, sad, and hurt. And now that I know, I see that there have been changes in him, mostly cognitive.
If he reacts like I think he will, what should I do?
I'd bet my bottom doller that your DH was partaking of the fine herb the whole time you've been married...probably even before.
Don't worry, the jay he smokes or eats is better and much less harmful than the social drink or two which you also enjoy.
When he finds out what a "big deal to me" it is you can bet he'll be much more careful and discreet.
I'd say he's done pretty good at hiding it from you so far.
Telling that you never really noticed any "cognitive" changes in him until AFTER you found out.
Could be because there are none, except those in your mind.
Too bad that you are so "disappointed, sad and hurt" because now he's gonna have to keep his secret more closely guarded from the woman he loves.
Do y'all realize the OP has not been back and the thread has turned into various respondents arguing amongst themselves about what the OP should do with her relationship?
Every body does it and its going to be entirely legal in a couple of years anyway. Like cigarettes, except a lot less harmful.
You are honestly reacting like a child. So he smokes, big deal. He still is the same guy.
It is a 'big deal' to some. AND NO, EVERYBODY ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT DO IT! Some people don't want recreational drugs in their lives. Just because you think its great to fry your brain doesn't mean everyone else wants that in their lives or in their home. You are right about one thing. This world is slowly turning into a bunch of pot heads. People think its no big deal, but its still a DRUG. The drug is altering people somehow or else no one would smoke it. Why people just *HAVE* to put some drug into their body that they don't NEED is beyond me.
And save the medicinal bulls---t. Most of the potheads out there are just smoking it to get high, baked, whatever you want to call it. Not for some medical condition. It is a nasty, smelly, disgusting habit. I HATE..HATE the smell of pot on people. It just seeps out their pores. Disgusting. Just so you can get a buzz. Your life sucks so much you need a drug to take you away? But that's what some people in the world want. Pretty soon we will be hearing cocaine is no big deal too, and lets legalize that. And no...I don't smoke cigarettes or drink, so save that come back. Because you know how potheads like to say its just like drinking or smoking cigs. You know, I thought cigarette smoke stunk, but pot is even worse. Ugghh how do you even kiss and cuddle up with someone who has such stench coming from them. One of my cousins is a pothead and he reeks of the stuff half the time.
People need a stress reliever? How about exercising or something, or taking up yoga or something healthy for you instead of smoking a stinking a$$ drug? But hey, you know what. People can do what they want to do I suppose. However, don't bust the chops of the rest of us because we don't want that crap in our lives. You wanna smoke, go get baked some where else.
Do y'all realize the OP has not been back and the thread has turned into various respondents arguing amongst themselves about what the OP should do with her relationship?
Such is the nature of discussion forums. The topic gets discussed whether or not the OP is an active participant in the discussion. *shrug*
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