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OP, in my opinion, Karma has stepped in. You are both cheaters, and now you're both getting your dose of the hurt that you dished out to two other people.
Obviously you were talking about me. A woman LIKE ME. It's quite funny how judgemental some people here are. Ohhhh my god, you did something 7 years ago, you're so bad and have no values! LOL. Okay. Bye.
Judgmental you say? You dont trust your bf because he cheated on his ex gf with you years ago.
Now, who's being judgmental about things done in the past, Lol (pot meet kettle )
No, cheating is a forgivable offense when you're young and inexperienced it is also not an indication that you will be a cheater for the rest of your life.
I had my morals of not cheating since 5 years old.
Sorry, I expressed myself wrong. He did cheat on her with me, but he didn't date us at the same time. We kissed that one night and we hooked up the next night, which was definitely cheating. But then I didn't see him for a few days, that's when he broke up with his ex-girlfriend.
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There were no coffee shops or restaurants close by, I know that, because I've also stayed in that hotel a few times. It's just really close to the airport with just other hotels and industry stuff around. He couldn't invite me, because it's an hour FLIGHT, not drive. I wouldn't buy a flight ticket just to meet him and the backpacker girl and fly back with him to our city an hour later, haha. I'm sure he would have been furious if I did the same.
I also still have a huge problem with the fact that he met her. Why would you even do that? She's not his friend, even though he called her 'friend'. But how on earth are you friends with a girl you just met and who lives in another continent than you? That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Yeah, I didn't read the novella, but this sentence stood out to me.
My daughter in her late teens went through some of this.
It took awhile for her to get that just because he chose you over someone else didn't mean that you where "the one" or that you "won"
She had a little bit of a female ego trip going that caused her a few years of pain over this boy. In the end she just didn't want to fail becuase it would show the others girls they where right, she was determined to turn it in to something it was not.
It only took her this one boy and bad experience to wake up....thankfully
Men hide things innocent sometimes because they know they will unnecessarily upset us. Im like you, I want full disclosure. So tell him about hiding things from you and how it makes you feel, even though he wasnt unfaithful, he shouldnt have to hide things.
I felt compelled to comment on this. The OP's story is a novel. ... Men hide things because women often have a tendency to take things out of proportion, and as time goes on, women also tend to skew history, and often throw things into one big smorgasbord of a scenario that doesn't exist.
I have a friend I have known since I was 5 years old. This woman slept over my house, grew up with my family, to me she is the equivalent to a sister. I speak with her from time to time via email: "Hey how are you, how is work, how are the kids, oh you saw my sister, tell her I said hi" Small talk. My brother got married, and she was invited (obviously she is like family). I have never told my wife about her, just because I hadn't even thought of it... Lo and behold, according to my wife, I must be sleeping with this woman. Now every time something bugs my wife she throws out this woman's name: "Go sleep with X." Very childish.
Men are small talkers by nature. Historically (if you go via the caveman route), men went out, did work, came home with food, and often did little other than labor, labor, labor. Women on the other hand remained home, cooked, and socialized. This occurred for centuries. It is in a woman's nature to socialize/mingle. Men? We don't paint stories that go on.
Men: I went to the store to buy milk
Women: You know, I was driving down Main Street today, you know Main Street, where the pharmacy is, you know the pharmacy where John works. Anyway, so I am driving, and boy was it hot outside. Pulled into the parking lot, and I saw the cutest ... (this goes on and on for minutes). So I brought milk.
Obviously I can't answer for him, but now two people allayed the OPs fears. Your comment is off the mark to an extent. We don't hide things because it will unnecessarily upset, we KNOW it will. We almost all feel at some point in time, little things will be used as ammunition for no rhyme or reason.
I did not have a boyfriend during my twenties or during my thirties.
So there was no cheating going on.
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