Do you think books about relationship are helpful or not?
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There is no instruction manual for finding a relationship, or maintaining one, or taking it to the next level, or ending one. There are only guidelines. Books, friends, siblings, posts on this forum, etc. all provide guidelines; they're just opinions from various perspectives. A nugget of advice in some book may be helpful for person A, but be utterly irrelevant and nonsense for person B.
It's more important that a person be able to think for himself and understand himself well. That way, he is more likely to truly know what advice might work for him, and what advice might not.
I think the best way to learn about relationships is to just...be in a relationship. You'll make severe mistakes, and perhaps irreconcilably p*ss off your partner...sure that'll suck, but it's also a learning experience. With time and experience, you'll hopefully figure out what works for you and what doesn't. You'll also learn a lot about yourself. Interesting things about you that were previously latent will rise to the surface.