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Old 07-06-2015, 01:08 PM
 
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As someone else said, what is the point of even getting married. You are a nurse and should be making enough money to take care of yourself. Why even bother with getting married??? Just to use one another for financially being in a better situation? That's bull.
Believe it or not, your nurse friends are wrong. True love does really exist. Just because they have not been able to find someone and keep their relationship together, doesn't really give them the right to spread that manure all around, stinking up others hopes and dreams.
Actually,they all are successfully married.

Its us American born nurses that are not.
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Old 07-06-2015, 01:37 PM
 
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Honestly at this point I don't know if you are a gold digger or a prostitute....
Are you dense?

A gold digger that works 80 hours a week?[/quote]

Being a gold digger dies not mean you are unemployed...just that you are targeting and using someone for your own benifit without actual love and compassion.

So yeah...it fits...you are a gold digger who wants to find a victim to trap into a loveless marriage to use them for their money.
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Old 07-06-2015, 01:38 PM
 
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Actually,they all are successfully married.

Its us American born nurses that are not.
Yes...there is not a single American nurse that is happily married. What bs.
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Old 07-06-2015, 01:55 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Yes,men and women have sex with people they are not attracted to everyday.

If i was married to a man that was the breadwinner,out of respect,i would have sex with him even if i was not attracted to him.


He is providing for me after all.
Why? I've never had sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. That would be torture to me. And if you aren't in it for the money - then what are you in it for? Because it sounds like you would have sex with him because he is supporting you. Which sounds more like a sugar daddy situation than a marriage. Basically, it sounds like torture to me.
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Actually,they all are successfully married.

Its us American born nurses that are not.
I think "successful" means different things to different people. I consider my marriage successful because we love each other, are on the same page for all the big picture things, we laugh together everyday, we love our kids, we are attracted to each other, and we just love being around each other. Anything short of that, I would not consider successful.
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Old 07-06-2015, 05:39 PM
 
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I think "successful" means different things to different people. I consider my marriage successful because we love each other, are on the same page for all the big picture things, we laugh together everyday, we love our kids, we are attracted to each other, and we just love being around each other. Anything short of that, I would not consider successful.
I do think that a marriage that involves, obligation sex ("oh he bought me new furniture...I guess I have to give it up tonight" or even worse "if I have sex with him I can get him to buy me new furniture") is not part of a successful marriage.
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Old 07-09-2015, 01:35 AM
 
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I do think that a marriage that involves, obligation sex ("oh he bought me new furniture...I guess I have to give it up tonight" or even worse "if I have sex with him I can get him to buy me new furniture") is not part of a successful marriage.
WTH?

Its based on mutual RESPECT.


I would respect him because he did something nice for me.
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Old 07-09-2015, 03:29 AM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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WTH?

Its based on mutual RESPECT.


I would respect him because he did something nice for me.
From your other post.

"Yes,men and women have sex with people they are not attracted to everyday.

If i was married to a man that was the breadwinner,out of respect,i would have sex with him even if i was not attracted to him.


He is providing for me after all."



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Old 07-09-2015, 09:06 AM
 
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I do think that a marriage that involves, obligation sex ("oh he bought me new furniture...I guess I have to give it up tonight" or even worse "if I have sex with him I can get him to buy me new furniture") is not part of a successful marriage.
so the ONLY time you have sex is when you want to??

I think the longer a marriage goes on, the more obligation sex there is...im NOT talking about using sex to get a new coffee table, Im talking about having sex when your partner wants to and you not so much

there were plenty of times when I "serviced my wife" or vice versa because one of us was not in the mood...this is "obligation sex"...when its new, sure you both want to all the time...but 20 years later one of you is gonna want it less...it just happens
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Old 07-10-2015, 12:40 AM
 
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so the ONLY time you have sex is when you want to??
yeah,i think its selfish when 1 partner holds it back from the other,esp if the partner is good in every other way.
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Old 07-10-2015, 12:42 AM
 
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From your other post.

"Yes,men and women have sex with people they are not attracted to everyday.

If i was married to a man that was the breadwinner,out of respect,i would have sex with him even if i was not attracted to him.


He is providing for me after all."



Sorry,i do not understand?

What is confusing about what i said?
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