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This sounds like a form of "sour grapes". How did your feelings become so strong even when you refused to go on a single date with him?
What do you hope to accomplish now? Do you want him to turn down the new job and try to get his old one back on the off-chance that your relationship will work? Are you planning to move to his new location to start a relationship? No? Then learn a lesson that you need to "strike while the iron is hot", "he who hesitates is lost", and "faint heart never won fair lady (or handsome gentleman)".
I'd say go ahead and tell him, because you'll keep looking back and wondering 'what if?' Let him know why you kept turning him down too.
Now, realize he could decide that he'd rather not start anything so soon before leaving. And that would be the risk you'd have to take. But...he could decide, why not? And even then, nothing could come of it. Or...
You'll never know unless you try.
Go for it. Go in knowing the risks. Don't think everything will end like a romcom. This is more for your peace of mind, honestly. But then again, you never know what could happen.
I agree. OP, it is highly likely that you will end up heartbroken regardless of what happens. Would you rather take a chance and possibly enjoy your last few weeks with him, despite the probability of heartbreak afterward? Or would you rather hide your feelings and always wonder what might have been?
Many years ago, I had feelings for a friend who was going into the Marines at the end of the summer. I neglected to tell him, and even pulled back from our friendship to start dating another. To this day I wonder what might have been.
This sounds like a form of "sour grapes". How did your feelings become so strong even when you refused to go on a single date with him?
What do you hope to accomplish now? Do you want him to turn down the new job and try to get his old one back on the off-chance that your relationship will work? Are you planning to move to his new location to start a relationship? No? Then learn a lesson that you need to "strike while the iron is hot", "he who hesitates is lost", and "faint heart never won fair lady (or handsome gentleman)".
I refused to date him because I was new to the job - only two months there when he started asking me out. I did not want to start anything and become the subject of office gossip so quickly. I wanted to at least pass my probationary period. I was tempted to accept his offers, but I stuck to my guns.
He was a complete gentleman to me, and we discussed a lot of things, even after I turned down his offers for dates. Our connection just became stronger.
So you doubt that anything more can come from this? I honestly don't want to have regrets down the line.
Beak, I use a simple rule when faced with situations like this that may lead to regrets. I follow the old saying that it's better to go to your death bed regretting something you did then regretting something you didn't try for when you had the chance. Life is too short to let these situations pass us by. Go for it.
Beak, I use a simple rule when faced with situations like this that may lead to regrets. I follow the old saying that it's better to go to your death bed regretting something you did then regretting something you didn't try for when you had the chance. Life is too short to let these situations pass us by. Go for it.
I refused to date him because I was new to the job - only two months there when he started asking me out. I did not want to start anything and become the subject of office gossip so quickly. I wanted to at least pass my probationary period. I was tempted to accept his offers, but I stuck to my guns.
He was a complete gentleman to me, and we discussed a lot of things, even after I turned down his offers for dates. Our connection just became stronger.
Everything is just happening so quickly.
This makes no sense at all, you do not want to be part of office gossip before your probation period is over but it is just fine to do so afterward?
Keep,religion, romance, politics and your entire personal life out of the office.
Go for it. If nothing else it might be a fun couple of weeks or you may realize you DON'T really want him long term anyway.
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