Mindset of an overweight male in relation to attraction / dating (man, attracted)
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Sure - but what does it matter? If the second woman finds someone who loves her and attracted to her - then does it matter that most men are more attracted to the first woman?
And I'm not sure what you mean about the men being vastly inferior? I mean, in the case of my grandfather - he was a jerk so I'm not going to argue about his inferiority or superiority but inferior or superior in what respect?
Sure - but what does it matter? If the second woman finds someone who loves her and attracted to her - then does it matter that most men are more attracted to the first woman?
And I'm not sure what you mean about the men being vastly inferior? I mean, in the case of my grandfather - he was a jerk so I'm not going to argue about his inferiority or superiority but inferior or superior in what respect?
Or maybe that woman simply has a guy who is with her because that is all he can get? Possibility.
When I said inferior it was strictly in reference to numerical value. ie 9 men say first girl is attractive. 1 man says second girl is attractive. Has nothing to do with personal self worth.
I am normal size, ie 5'10 185 pounds. Slightly thicker build I suppose.
But, for guys who are very obese, what is their approach or mindset on dating women?
Take what you can get, regardless of size?
Go for an ugly in the face normal sized woman?
Just curious of the game plan and thoughts.
Well, I'm not obese. I consider myself subjectively average @5'11" 155 lbs. But my mindset is to date whoever I'm attracted to. Ive dated chubby to very petite and in between, from below average to extremely gorgeous faces. Youre going to find most guys (like myself) like a variety of sizes and faces, regardless of their own weight.
Or maybe that woman simply has a guy who is with her because that is all he can get? Possibility.
When I said inferior it was strictly in reference to numerical value. ie 9 men say first girl is attractive. 1 man says second girl is attractive. Has nothing to do with personal self worth.
Ah yes. The good old numerical system.
If people are happy with their partners - why does it matter to you? It seems you just want to hear that the only men that are with obese women are with them not because they are attracted to them but because they can't do any better. First of all - there are men that are attracted to big women. Secondly, there are obese women that are still attractive and are great people, too. Is it harder for obese women - sure. Do I know a lot of single obese women who have had very few relationships? Yes. I also know obese women that are happily married.
If people are happy with their partners - why does it matter to you? It seems you just want to hear that the only men that are with obese women are with them not because they are attracted to them but because they can't do any better. First of all - there are men that are attracted to big women. Secondly, there are obese women that are still attractive and are great people, too. Is it harder for obese women - sure. Do I know a lot of single obese women who have had very few relationships? Yes. I also know obese women that are happily married.
I still don't see why any of this matters.
Didnt your father ever teach you about assuming?
Of course there are men attracted to obese women. (id wager these make up a small % of the population)
Ive personally never seen an attractive obese woman. A woman that does not take care of her body / health is not attractive to me and most men I know.
A woman's appearance has nothing to do with her as a person ie great person or bad person.
I am average size, and could never date or sleep with a large woman. They just turn me off sexually. Nothing wrong for the people who are turned on by it.
If by chance I became really fat and attractive normal size women stop entertaining me, I am wondering what I would do and how my mindset would change. How would I cope with this?
Are you planning on gaining a large amount of weight in the near future?
Or are you just starting a thread solely based on a totally hypothetical situation, that has a very slight chance of happening?
Anyway, in answer to your question (and forgive me if someone else has already said this, since I didn't bother to read the whole thread), lots of average sized woman don't mind extra weight on a man, but you'd probably stop getting all those "10"s you speak of.
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