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What's done is done. Financially it made sense to move in together, not to mention the fact that we get along great and we love spending time together. I've loved living together so far. Sure, it was fast, but it's been great.
Yes, I know living together has added to the stress, but as I stated before, I wouldn't trade the stress, anxiety, or whatever it is I'm feeling for anything, even the single life. He's worth it.
You are causing your own stress and why in the world would you move in with someone after dating for 4 months.
That is barely enough time to remember how to spell his last name.
This is your issue alone and it appears you jumped into deeper water than you are ready to handle.
Why NOT. We're consenting adults. We knew it was early, but we've enjoyed it thus far. Is there a rule that says you have to wait X amount of time before moving in together?
Perhaps the fast move was because he had already purchased the house before I met him and was fixing it up (it was a total gut job), and when we began seeing each other, I would sometimes help him with the work on the house. His first night there after it became habitable, he asked me to stay with him for the night, and it just kind of worked out from there. Maybe it's a pride of ownership thing--I did help remodel the house--why not enjoy our hard work together?
Now will everyone quit asking WHY? Normally it doesn't bother me but everyone seems to but stuck on that fact. It's already done. If it was too soon, we'll deal with it. If it doesn't work out, we'll deal with it. We're not married. Why NOT live together if we want to?
Now will everyone quit asking WHY? Normally it doesn't bother me but everyone seems to but stuck on that fact. It's already done. If it was too soon, we'll deal with it. If it doesn't work out, we'll deal with it. We're not married. Why NOT live together if we want to?
um...because it's stressing you out? You started the thread about the stresses of living with your guy, and asked if it's always like this. People are giving you their answers. That's all.
Now will everyone quit asking WHY? Normally it doesn't bother me but everyone seems to but stuck on that fact. It's already done. If it was too soon, we'll deal with it. If it doesn't work out, we'll deal with it. We're not married. Why NOT live together if we want to?
It does matter. There is not a specific minimum time frame, but there is a general consensus that a few months is too soon. You seriously, legitimately barely know each other.
Financial reasons and "because I was already there a lot anyway" are NEVER enough to move in with an SO.
The stress doesn't ever go away because you are two separate people with two different ways of approaching things. You'll always be two separate people. It may die down over time, but only if you make concessions, which isn't the same thing as getting rid of the stress.
You are balancing your desire to please him with your desire to have things "your way." There's guilt for asking "too much," and resentment for having to ask in the first place.
It's an adjustment. A constant adjustment. You will have to communicate A LOT and figure out how to navigate life together.
If that's what you actually want.
wmsn4life, i tried to rep you but apparently ive given you too many reps recently, so the system won't allow me to do so.
It does matter. There is not a specific minimum time frame, but there is a general consensus that a few months is too soon. You seriously, legitimately barely know each other.
Financial reasons and "because I was already there a lot anyway" are NEVER enough to move in with an SO.
Ugh. There's really nothing we can say at this point. She's loves the guy, moved in, and is very adamant in keeping her relationship despite our disapprovals and her anxieties.
Suggesting her to move out and taking the relationship slower is just out of the question here, Lol
Ugh. There's really nothing we can say at this point. She's loves the guy, moved in, and is very adamant in keeping her relationship despite our disapprovals and her anxieties.
Suggesting her to move out and taking the relationship slower is just out of the question here, Lol
No, that's definitely true. Can't go back to holding hands and goodnight kisses on the porch.
It is the cause of her stress, though. She's just going through that adjustment. Keeping an eye on the big picture will help her make her way through it.
Yeah, at this point the horse is out of the barn. Maybe some more time is needed, because some people do not take well to cohabitation at first.
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