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Old 07-06-2015, 09:18 PM
 
Location: Earth
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I know I had hard time fitting in school being the weird ADD black nerd girl and then I found forums and chat rooms.It was heaven on earth.
Nothing like the internet for the less than socially charismatic irl

Same for me lol
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Old 07-06-2015, 09:19 PM
 
Location: moved
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There have always been shy guys. But men assuming that attractive women are taken and allowing that assumption to cause them to not even try is new to me, and is shocking in its absurdity.
The underlying rationale is the "efficient markets theory", or EMT. In the investment world, some people are persuaded that a particular stock is a screaming buy, because the corporate fundamentals are strong, return on investment capital is good and growing, the price/earnings ratio is low, and so forth... but the stock is out of favor in the stock market. But an adherent of EMT would retort that all such information is already available to the overall market. It is therefore already priced into the stock. Beyond aggregate market conditions, such as investor euphoria or despair, all stocks are already priced fairly. Therefore any screaming bargain is utterly illusory.

The countervailing joke has two EMT adherents walking along, when one of them spies a $100 bill on the ground. "Don't bother to pick it up", says the other. "If it were a real $100 bill, somebody would have picked it up already".

We have, have we not, often noticed the assertion of an analogy between commercial markets (stocks, bonds, lumber, vegetables,...) and the dating "market"? Well, apply EMT to dating. The implication is that any beautiful woman or handsome man is already taken. And if they're not already taken, then they're not really beautiful or handsome, or there is some underlying malady yet to be discovered.
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Old 07-06-2015, 09:29 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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Why wouldn't they?

When I was single I preferred meeting women online. I felt that I got to know them better through emails than if we were just dating. And if there was something I didn't like, it was easy to just move on. Less complications, less hassle, better screening.
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Old 07-06-2015, 09:31 PM
 
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Nothing like the internet for the less than socially charismatic irl

Same for me lol
Yea it is great to be able to express myself.
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Old 07-06-2015, 09:35 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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This is good advice for women, but not men. Women have a huge selection of men online. As long as they are not ridiculously picky, they will have tons of options and can easily have a boyfriend within a few days. In fact, I don't know why women don't exclusively date online. It's like a catalog for them.

Men, on the other hand, need to put in the leg work in real life and will likely not have success online.

Most women seem to not understand this for whatever reason.
But there are men who have success with online dating; however, I reckon "success" can have a number of definitions. I came across a fair number of men who dated plenty and even met previous partners online. So it isn't entirely a wash for all men. I do recognize dating, especially online, can be a struggle for a lot of men.
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Old 07-06-2015, 09:42 PM
 
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But there are men who have success with online dating; however, I reckon "success" can have a number of definitions. I came across a fair number of men who dated plenty and even met previous partners online. So it isn't entirely a wash for all men. I do recognize dating, especially online, can be a struggle for a lot of men.
Well it is sausage fest
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Old 07-06-2015, 10:03 PM
 
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An ego boost. Pay those women no mind at all.
To humiliate and embarrass men too!
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Old 07-06-2015, 10:14 PM
 
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Well I am young and attractive and I use online dating. Not every single woman lives in urban, walkable areas like NYC or Chicago where thousands and thousands of men see her every day. I live in a small, car dependent town that is very family orientated so I don't see too many single men my age out and about and they don't see me either.
So that's a big reason. When I move to a big city I'm not sure if I will use online dating since there will be way more opportunities to meet nice single men. So that's my main reason. Also it's much easier to approach a guy online than in person and a lot of women might be shy, I know I am a bit. But there's millions of attractive women who use online dating for many different reasons.
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Old 07-06-2015, 10:15 PM
 
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Attention and ego-boosting I'm sure is a common reason. I do like the ego-boosting and attention I get online, but that's not my main reason.
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Old 07-06-2015, 11:00 PM
 
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To humiliate and embarrass men too!
Well. Not exactly. Some of these women just crave attention like a drug addict. My brother in law uses online dating and he says the pretty women just want validation.
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