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He says psychologists/therapists are full of...crap. Not sure he would see one. I think my biggest thing is that I don't know if I want to. I have had ZERO libido in the last year or so and I don't know if it's because I'm peri-menopausal (sorry about the TMI) or because I just am not attracted to him anymore. I'm only in my late 30's and when I see another attractive man, I still have feelings so I don't know.....
If counseling is out of question, what's your next move in fixing your marital problem/s??
It doesn't sound like that because she won't let him watch her have sex with other dudes. It sounds like that because he's being a selfish jerk and calling her names instead of respecting her discomfort with his requests.
No, but one of the biggest. My husband likes to drink more than he should (not an alcoholic and certainly not an angry drinker) but more than I deem acceptable, every day of the week and he can be rude. His opinions aren't so inline with mine anymore and I think the problems are being exacerbated by the fact that I'm not getting any anymore nor do I seem to want it from him.
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It doesn't sound like that because she won't let him watch her have sex with other dudes. It sounds like that because he's being a selfish jerk and calling her names instead of respecting her discomfort with his requests.
Does it matter why it sounds like that? I sounds like it is in jeopardy, for whatever reason. And apparently there is no desire to fix or address those reasons.
He says psychologists/therapists are full of...crap. Not sure he would see one. I think my biggest thing is that I don't know if I want to. I have had ZERO libido in the last year or so and I don't know if it's because I'm peri-menopausal (sorry about the TMI) or because I just am not attracted to him anymore. I'm only in my late 30's and when I see another attractive man, I still have feelings so I don't know.....
If he won't go to counseling, he leaves you with no alternative than to call it quits. (If you can't imagine changing your mind about his requests.)
In your late 30's, you shouldn't be peri-menopausal. What makes you think you are? (It does come early for a few women.) It sounds like you've lost interest in him because of his kinks. Get counseling for yourself, to help sort through your feelings.
It doesn't sound like that because she won't let him watch her have sex with other dudes. It sounds like that because he's being a selfish jerk and calling her names instead of respecting her discomfort with his requests.
This is the way I see it but I wanted some opinions on the matter to make sure it wasn't me being the selfish one. I don't think I am and I don't feel I should feel uncomfortable in the bedroom but I do.
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