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Yea I'm clearly blinded. Everyone says I'm blinded. They say she's a street girl. I've heard that from multiple people don't know eachother. They say I have more classy in my pinky then she does in her whole existence. Part of me is just confused as hell at this point. I don't know what to think and feel. I'm proud of all my accomplishments and getting better. Getting this job, my own spot, and a year ago seeing my Mom suffer from cancer and take her last breath as I held her hand is huge. I can't imagine how a girl could go through that and throw away as she used to say "my future husband", because I freaking sent a few messages twice. If she truly loved me we could have EASILY worked through it. I learned my lesson and I truly was ready to adore and embrace her. She posts the most ridiculous things on Facebook a picture of herself with has tag "babyimworthit" "gonnabeagreatyear". She's overcompensating.
I need the silent treatment? She beat me while I was down. That's worse than my two little messaging episodes. She knew leaving me would feel like losing my Mother again since we shared that tie and had become a Motherly figure. And she didn't just give me silent treatment, she tore my character apart, YOURE A ****TY PERSON, YOU USED YOUR MOMS DEAD CARD AS AN EXCUSE, YOULL NEVER BE ANYTHING. Then threatening to block me after I sent her loving embracing messages. And just moves on like I'm trash. She's not a good person.
Yea I'm clearly blinded. Everyone says I'm blinded. They say she's a street girl. I've heard that from multiple people don't know eachother. They say I have more classy in my pinky then she does in her whole existence. Part of me is just confused as hell at this point. I don't know what to think and feel. I'm proud of all my accomplishments and getting better. Getting this job, my own spot, and a year ago seeing my Mom suffer from cancer and take her last breath as I held her hand is huge. I can't imagine how a girl could go through that and throw away as she used to say "my future husband", because I freaking sent a few messages twice. If she truly loved me we could have EASILY worked through it. I learned my lesson and I truly was ready to adore and embrace her. She posts the most ridiculous things on Facebook a picture of herself with has tag "babyimworthit" "gonnabeagreatyear". She's overcompensating.
Oh my God, you have got to get a grip.
First of all, BLOCK HER on any and all social media. You are making this worse for yourself.
Next, increase your therapy visits to weekly. You are all over the place, and dangerously close to the point where you ar just ruminating because you get a thrill out of going over all the messy details.
No, she has not destroyed your character. You have. You chose to stay with her despite all of these issues. You compromised your own values and ambitions to be with her.
I know this is a tough pill to swallow, but you need to claim your own role in this. People can only have the effect on you that you allow them to have. Time to bite the bullet, acknowledge that you were living in denial and made some serious mistakes, and move on to become the man you really are underneath. You were strong before, you'll be strong again--when you stop blaming someone else for your mistakes and bad judgment.
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Amen to this. Thank you. Bite the bullet is right. I just hate that she got to "shame me" or bring to the floor while I never said a SINGLE bad word to her. Difference between my mistake and hers. I was willing to work through everything relationship therapy etc. her she didn't just break up with me her intention clearly was to destroy me.
I need the silent treatment? She beat me while I was down. That's worse than my two little messaging episodes. She knew leaving me would feel like losing my Mother again since we shared that tie and had become a Motherly figure. And she didn't just give me silent treatment, she tore my character apart, YOURE A ****TY PERSON, YOU USED YOUR MOMS DEAD CARD AS AN EXCUSE, YOULL NEVER BE ANYTHING. Then threatening to block me after I sent her loving embracing messages. And just moves on like I'm trash. She's not a good person.
You SHOULD be blocked. NO CONTACT. Don't you know what TOXIC means??
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Come on, man. So many other women out there who aren't street-strumpet crack-whores. Crikey, in your shoes, I'd be getting tested and sending her the bill.
Yeah you're right. I'm just pissed we could have made it work. I'm not a bad person, I've never made those mistakes in anyother relationship. I just wished she had ended things without the spitefulness and rage. But I guess that's the narcissist BPD way.
I should be blocked? Why I wasn't the toxic one. I've been the chillest sweetest considerate partner. She said she's always been cheated on. Clearly her insecurity brings it out of people. She put me through hell. Why am I supposed to suffer? I should be blocking her.
I know what you think, but she did have a good heart somewhere in there. If not as my sis said who's got alot of experience she did a damn good job of tricking you. I come from a very respected good family. At this point friends are telling me I'll ruin my life if I continue to think about her.
I should be blocked? Why I wasn't the toxic one. I've been the chillest sweetest considerate partner. She said she's always been cheated on. Clearly her insecurity brings it out of people. She put me through hell. Why am I supposed to suffer? I should be blocking her.
Ok look.
I'm not saying "She" should block "you."
I'm saying you have NO REASON to be in any kind of contact with her, ESPECIALLY social media. You block her, she blocks you, whatever. NO CONTACT.
Blame should be the least of your worries anyway.
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