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What if you truly believe you're 9 but really a -3? Who determines scale placement?
Exactly.
The real problem isn't discrepancies in looks, per se. It is the level of maturity of those who are fixated on looks to the point of using juvenile rating systems as though they were buying a hunk of beef at the grocery store.
Particularly when the "buyer," controlled by ego and image, is hell-bent on the highest "quality," without having any concept of its proper handling or how best to appreciate it. They're too self-important to realize what they actually NEED. Probably wants to use grass-fed beef from New Zealand to make Sloppy Joes.
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Those people have issues that go deeper than dating. And what they could benefit from is professional help. Because people who get that upset about it, still won't be happy in a relationship, because they're going to demand more attention 100% of the time than most can give, and be clingy and unbearable after a while, causing any partner to get tired of them and leave.
I can understand being a bit lonely or bummed about it. But being suicidal, takes it to another, and rather unhealthy, level.
So those people need counselling, or life-coaching of some kind. A relationship works better for people who have their own lives and things to enjoy that don't require a SO. Even a married couple won't be together all the time.
Suicide is definitely taking it to an extreme and those people need help, but depression from being lonely is very normal. I have certainly experienced it in my life and probably am now to a certain extent. I mean going out with the guys is fun and all, but after a while you start to miss some things in life.
What if you truly believe you're 9 but really a -3? Who determines scale placement?
I had a friend like this in high school and college. God bless her... she was just not physically attractive but her parents did a good job of instilling confidence in her.
How does one rate a 10? What are the factors that make up a 10, are some factors allow more than a max of 10, if so, can those factors make up for others that are less than 10, and if not, is it an integer based system with a ceiling function.
Ie, there is only 1, 2, 3, etc and not 1.3, 2.7, 3.5. Further, with a ceiling function, a 3.5 is a 4, integer wise.
Or, does it mean one has to match point for point? Ie, if I am a 10 on maturity but an 8 on cooking, he has to be a 10 on maturity and an 8 on cooking.
Further, for such a system, "traditionally" I take it we are only talking about dating and not any further. The old concepts of marriage, of complimenting each other, of "when two become one", don't apply here, right?
What a system that would be! Just imagine, "I'm sorry, Guy Grand, you and I are both tops in looks, money, cars, houses, horses, and how we play polo. But you are 2 points below me in your taste of wine and hence, are no one! Be gone!"
10s went after 10s, 9s went after 9s, ... , 1s went after 1s. The issue is that the large majority of people aren't attracted to people at their own level of attractiveness.
Yes it is aggravating. The ones you contact don't give you the time of day and the ones that contact you are ones you would never consider dating.
We have had way too many threads about rating potential partners by number or league. Please, everyone, do not start any more threads on this topic. To assign another human being a number based on appearance is abhorrent. Just don't do it. Or if you do, don't post about it here.
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