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Originally Posted by AlfredB1979
Why should OP be angry at men he doesn't know? How is that productive for him at all?
I like your guilt trip there, too. I mean...why should OP play licensed shrink on a volunteer basis to help this woman out? I'm pretty sure that's well above his pay grade.
Then you run in circles telling OP to make a judgment then not to doso. Stop it.
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My point was, if he LOVES her and she is worth it to him, there are ways to be. A judgmental jerk ain't one of them.
If he is not invested in her, and wants to guard himself from her possible problems, that makes sense too, he would be justified in cutting her loose if she bears too much red-flag/drama potential for him.
Really it comes down to...no one is perfect, we are all messy complex human creatures and we all have STUFF. You (rhetorical you, meaning each one of us) just have to decide if a partner's STUFF is something you can deal with, if it's worth it to you, or not. And proceed accordingly.
But continuing to be with her and using words like "slutty" in talking to or about her...no, I'm sorry, I don't think that's OK. Choose a path and walk it.
And as to being angry at men he doesn't know, I'm saying that if he's judging anyone's behavior, the behavior of getting a woman hammered so as to bang her, or doing so after she's wasted to the point of serious incoherence, is reprehensible. Sure, she bears some responsibility for her actions. As in, learn your lessons and your worth as a human being and keep yourself out of those situations. But the notion that a guy is justified in grabbing a piece anywhere he can, even if the person isn't of a capacity to consent, is disgusting to me. It's one reason I don't drink alcohol ever...I have never trusted ANY MAN with my person in such a state.