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I'm a transplant to Indiana and have been here for about a year and a half. I've been dating a woman since January, and we may try to move in together next year. She's a lifelong Hoosier and has not lived outside of Indiana her whole life and has a strong family network here. I have no personal ties to the area and would love to go somewhere more scenic or warmer. I don't think she'd be very excited about relocating.
I'm a transplant to Indiana and have been here for about a year and a half. I've been dating a woman since January, and we may try to move in together next year. She's a lifelong Hoosier and has not lived outside of Indiana her whole life and has a strong family network here. I have no personal ties to the area and would love to go somewhere more scenic or warmer. I don't think she'd be very excited about relocating.
How big is willingness to relocate to you?
You might rethink your relationship.
I am from Chicagoland and I have visit Indiana many times. I could not live in that place.
You don't think she'd move or you don't know, because you never asked her?
My SO and I have lived in three different countries and three different states together, and are contemplating another relocation. Our relocation have mostly been career opportunities for him so however, our current city was my choice as I wanted to put down some roots for a while, and he made some sacrafices to that end. You need to be compatiable and flexible in this regard.
OP, you haven't even talked to her about it yet. You're conjuring up a problem where there may not be one. Talk to her, then get back to us, if there's any need to.
Communication is fundamental to a successful relationship. If you can't, or aren't willing, to communicate about simple basic things like this, your relationship won't make it very far, anyway. Your whole OP could be a moot point for that reason, if not for your anticipated reason that she may not be willing to move.
We've casually talked about it but more in a "what-if" way. I've told her I'd like to move to the Carolinas or Florida. While I'm growing more used to Indiana, I'd enjoy being closer to the coasts and the mountains, if I was in the Carolinas. I've found the people in the South to be friendlier, more to do, etc, and I just don't think she's been exposed to that.
I'm a transplant to Indiana and have been here for about a year and a half. I've been dating a woman since January, and we may try to move in together next year. She's a lifelong Hoosier and has not lived outside of Indiana her whole life and has a strong family network here. I have no personal ties to the area and would love to go somewhere more scenic or warmer. I don't think she'd be very excited about relocating.
How big is willingness to relocate to you?
Timberline is right, OP. Wait and see if the relationship makes it to next year. Then wait and see if it survives living together awhile. And in the meantime, you could take her on a vacation to the Carolinas, or wherever, so she can experience the aspects you like about the region.
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In this case, if she won't leave Indiana, she is nuts so got to be a deal breaker. I lived in Louisville, KY for two years and I can count on one hand the times I went into Indiana for anything interesting. There is just not much there except for being in between Louisville and Chicago.
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