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Making the decision of when to have sex is like making other decisions in life. If you are willing to accept the consequences, whatever they are, go for it whenever you feel like having sex with whomever you choose.
I have no interest in seeing a woman on a second date if I don't get at least some sexual satisfaction and/or give her some sexual satisfaction on the first date, and I mean more than a kiss (obviously). Also, if there are no "sparks" on the first date, it would be a waste of time for both of us to see each other again.
I also won't think less of a woman who sleeps with me on a first date - it would be hypocritical of me, since I like sleeping with women on a first date as well.
So do you go on a lot of second dates then?
I personally have never went beyond kissing on a first date. That being said I have had sex with one guy on a second date (that was the only time I ever had sex on a second date), and we ended up dating for quite a while. After a while I realized that I was mainly in the relationship just for the sex, because I didn't have much in common with him and after a while found him to be quite irritating. Therefore having sex so early on did cloud my judgement and had me enter into a relationship I never should have had in the first place.
It depends. I have slept with and/or at least messed around with women on the first date, and I sometimes see them again on a second "date" (and I use the term date loosely). Other times, it's just a one-nighter.
Note I'm honest with women that I'm not looking for LTR's, or anything leading to LTR's....
It depends. I have slept with and/or at least messed around with women on the first date, and I sometimes see them again on a second "date" (and I use the term date loosely). Other times, it's just a one-nighter.
Note I'm honest with women that I'm not looking for LTR's, or anything leading to LTR's....
Oh so you're just really looking for a booty call, that's quite different, and I wouldn't call that dating at all.
i just started seeing this wonderful guy a week ago we chatted online for alittle while before we actually met in person.I didnt have sex with him the first night but we both wanted to we were attracted right away. He is a perfect gentlemen opens the car door for me treats me with respect he is fun to be around we laughi just really like him a lot. So my question here is was it wrong to sleep with him on the second date, oh he is 53 i am 45 we are 2 consenting adults. whats your opinion on this?
I'm 24, so my perspective is slightly different but I once dated a man who was a perfect gentleman on the first date. He was basically the guy you would definitely introduce to mom and dad.
I refused having sex with him on the second date and he treated me like less than nothing during and after that date. It was the most horrible date of my life.
I'm glad I didn't sleep with him on the second date because he quickly showed his true colors.
I think that sleeping with someone on the second date is far too soon because you're not 100% sure if they're interested in you or in the color of your underwear. However, if you're prepared for the potential "hit and quit", I'd say it's your own prerogative. I don't judge.
I personally have never went beyond kissing on a first date. That being said I have had sex with one guy on a second date (that was the only time I ever had sex on a second date), and we ended up dating for quite a while. After a while I realized that I was mainly in the relationship just for the sex, because I didn't have much in common with him and after a while found him to be quite irritating. Therefore having sex so early on did cloud my judgement and had me enter into a relationship I never should have had in the first place.
Yes, or thirds. I've never had a situation where I slept with someone and it was decent or better and not gone out with them again. If we were into each other enough to sleep together then, then of course we'll go out again.
If we're not sleeping together soon, that means one person is either not into the other that much, or they're holding back (testing, being cautious, whatever) for another reason which means they're either playing games or just not acting like an adult... or they're protecting themselves, which means they're not emotionally available to seize life.
Holding back does not mean game playing, and there are plenty of adults who are not interested in sleeping with everyone who catches their eye, but believe sex is something that should be shared between two people who are actually in a relationship, and three dates does not constitute a relationship. And because of the actions of so many d-bag men out there who use women for sex, hell YES women protect themselves! Your attitude is no different than those men.
My husband and I have been married for 12 years now. We also met online and slept together on the second date. We had a sense about each other very early on.
Did you meet in Alaska? As rural as it is there, I think that figures in. . . (poster says she is from three)
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