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Full disclosure at all times, including access to cell phones.
It allows one or both parties involved, if there is any cheating to be able to make an objective decision based on facts and evidence to leave the relationship. Which I way better than living with the facade of a lie.
If or when I'm intimate with a woman that is cheating, it is only when she is cheating on the guy she is in a primary relationship with. I actually don't have a problem with women cheating. But when they do, it is NOT going to be while living at my house, going on vacations that I pay for, using me as a source of emotional energy and making me think that Im the only one.
If there is anything on a cell phone that needs to be a secret. . . .its like, cool. I respect your privacy. Now get out and master the art of keeping your double life a secret with some other guy.
Yes, yes, commence all the self-righteous commentary along the lines of "when I break up with someone, I have no reason to hang on to anything so I delete it all." Read the thread. Apparently the GF forgot the pictures were even on the server, but he just "tripped over" them.
And no, I don't have anything hanging around from my ex, myself, but I do have a locked journal that I keep online and I'm too lazy to log out every time I go there to write or to read my friend's journals. Someone I'm dating doesn't need to read that, or my friends' journals, either, so the whole computer would be password protected.
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Originally Posted by Skydive Outlaw
Full disclosure at all times, including access to cell phones.
It allows one or both parties involved, if there is any cheating to be able to make an objective decision based on facts and evidence to leave the relationship.
So ridiculous. If someone is having a full-blown affair, he or she will have a burner phone that you won't even know about.
Last edited by Lilac110; 07-26-2015 at 07:02 PM..
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Seriously, I would not be wasting my time with someone if I had that level of distrust in them.
Exactly. Funny thing is that the people who are the most mistrusting usually are the ones with things to hide, especially when it comes to cell phones.
^^^ I'm sure the sleazebags will be taking note of your tips.....
And I'm sure those who lack the common sense, life experience, or intellectual capacity to think of these things and are easily threatened by someone who points out how they could be one step behind will try to make petty little digs.
Seriously, I would not be wasting my time with someone if I had that level of distrust in them.
Bottom line.
If distrust is this big of an issue, there are one of two issues at hand, possibly both:
A. You're with a scumbag and shouldn't be with somebody so untrustworthy, or
B. You have crippling trust issues that you'd be better served to work on before pursuing a serious relationship, anyway.
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Originally Posted by believe007
^^^ I'm sure the sleazebags will be taking note of your tips.....
Lilac has a lot of relationship experience and as someone who does expansive business ventures with confidentiality laws has wise privacy advice that anyone would take well to heed to who is in the same situation.
You don't have to be a sleazebag to believe that you have a right to privacy. After having an extremely nosy mother whose roof I lived under for 22 years, I'm not going to surrender my private business to anyone willingly.
I believe, in transparency once I'm in a committed relationship.
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