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I absolutely would if she were interested of course. That would be really refreshing but alas it never happened to me in the years when I was dating.
Yes, its not common at all but so far it seems most guys are totally happy about it. It has happened to me often when I lived in Japan or whenever I visit other Asian countries. In the USA it just didn't happen.
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all the talk about equality ends when women stand to have a bit of a disadvantage.
That's how it seems. Girls don't like to be told what to do all the time, be with guys who make the decisions, etc. but once a guy tells them not to pay, decides he will be the one who pays, etc. that's when girls all of a sudden like that part of control and decision making.
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Some idiots read too much into it, like, "She wants to be in control", or "she's too masculine", or, "She's trying to prove something", or whatever.
So far all guys have responded they wish girls would do this. I guess idiots still believe it is a guy's duty/job to pay, right?
Whenever we have a thread about this, most C-D guys say they want to date women who pay their own way, or pay for both meals, and there are always women who say they've dated guys who were turned off by their insistence on paying their own way. They say some guys interpret it as a "friend zone" gesture, a "I'm not that into you" signal. Like minx, on the previous page.
Whenever we have a thread about this, most C-D guys say they want to date women who pay their own way, or pay for both meals, and there are always women who say they've dated guys who were turned off by their insistence on paying their own way. They say some guys interpret it as a "friend zone" gesture, a "I'm not that into you" signal. Like minx, on the previous page.
Not sure about their "insistence". CD female posters usually say they "tried to offer". You either offer or you simply pay. And many get offended if the guy dares himself to accept their offer. Then you have other female posters that use it as an excuse to not pay "I didn't pay because I didn't want him to feel that I see him just as a friend". Come on, you can't really see someone as a long time boyfriend or husband on the first date(s), can you? Of course I want a girl to see me as a friend when we go out. If things progress down the road then we'll talk about it. If not, life goes on. Don't see how this would hold a woman from offering these nice gestures instead of just expecting a man to offer them.
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