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I know the reason is probably finances, kids, etc...but I know this one guy who always cheats on his wife, and claims he's "not going anywhere" when I ask him why he stays with her (he often tells me about different girls he talks to). Why cheat and stay and be miserable? Or could it be he is really happily married and just needs some on the side? I am debating cutting off our friendship because I just don't want to hear about this anymore. I feel bad for his wife. Oddly enough, when he speaks of her, it doesn't sound like they are in a bad situation, but who know?
I will never understand this. Any ideas? Just curious what others think...does he love his wife if he does this?
They get something out of having a spouse/long-term partner, get something out of having a piece on the side, and are unwilling to relinquish either if they don't have to.
It's called having your cake and eating it too. Family life and kids are great but so is the option of dating new women. Of course having both means lying to people. Some people are very okay with that but of course if they are found out, they could lose both.
Funny part is he was telling me he was annoyed that a girl he was "talking to" didn't want to have sex with him when she found out he was married, and he told her he wasn't going anywhere ! I wanted to say, well any self-respecting woman wouldn't! sad part is, he gets plenty of women willing to entertain him.
No, but have been with my partner for over 12 years so practically married. We just got engaged in December No kids though he has two from his previous marriage.
No, but have been with my partner for over 12 years so practically married. We just got engaged in December No kids though he has two from his previous marriage.
Practically married...
Well, anyway. When you have been married a while, and especially if you have kids, it's more than a marriage. It's family. It's hard to walk away from that.
Well, anyway. When you have been married a while, and especially if you have kids, it's more than a marriage. It's family. It's hard to walk away from that.
Plus people can rationalize anything.
Not to mention Money
If you have to rely on your spouse to pay bills or mortgages thats hard if you can't live by yourself with your salary you are stuck you would need to search for roommates in the mean time
If you have to rely on your spouse to pay bills or mortgages thats hard if you can't live by yourself with your salary you are stuck you would need to search for roommates in the mean time
yes the wife doesn't work, only him. I get the impression money is tight too. He doesn't make six figures or anything.
Some men are smart like a fox. Many still love their wives but arent being fulfilled in other ways. When they can have cake and eat it to why get divorced. They know darn good and well if they were single someone would pressure them for marriage and thats not what their wanting.
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No kids though he has two from his previous marriage.
