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She did never actually say no contact, just that we should reconvene about it in a week. I just sort of assumed no contact.
It was a good assumption. If you text her over the weekend, it's not really respecing her wishes. She is the only one who needed a break, so let her initiate.
This may sound dumb, but the thing that is making me want to say something is her liking a post I made on Facebook. I know that it sounds silly, but I kind of view that as communication. Obviously it's not actual communication, but I have been operating under the rules of no texting, no posting to her Facebook, no liking on Facebook, etc.
This may sound dumb, but the thing that is making me want to say something is her liking a post I made on Facebook. I know that it sounds silly, but I kind of view that as communication. Obviously it's not actual communication, but I have been operating under the rules of no texting, no posting to her Facebook, no liking on Facebook, etc.
I understand the compulsion to contact her after seeing that, but think about it.
She has made a point of trying to set up some emotional distance between the two of you because she felt like you are pressuring her. If you really want to prove that you've changed (in 4 days) then PROVE it by doing something that goes against your urge. Just ignore the FB like.
There is a difference between someone being able to express themselves on a professional level and on a personal/emotional level. The two really have little correlation, in my opinion.
You obviously don't know a lot of lawyers.
Making their opinion be known is not usually a problem for them.
Leave her alone. If she wants you, she'll contact you.
At this point you need to let yourself feel a little angry, angry enough to step back. You do not want to continue a relationship where the other party keeps you guessing or refuses to acknowledge your affection in a meaningful way.
Making their opinion be known is not usually a problem for them.
Do you communicate the same way personally as you do professionally? Just because she's a lawyer (and a new one) doesn't mean she has an easing time of voicing herself on a professional level. She is an indecisive person in general.
She also has only ever had LDRs, so that may play into her communication as well.
Your original point could be spot on, but to making a sweeping assumption that just because she is a lawyer means she should be able to have flawless emotional conversations seems off to me.
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She's met another dude in her law firm... she was using you until she got her own place and is having a hard time telling you this
No, she hasn't.
I know all of the other male attorneys at her firm. She may have been using me for comfort through law school (though I don't believe this either), but I'm positive she didn't find a guy at work.
Brother, block out anybody saying she's probably cheating. They just like to stir the pot and don't actually care what happens to you.
You can make it 3 more days. Consider this - by not contacting her, you're allowing her to miss you (hopefully). When you do talk on Tuesday, she will have seen what life is like without you for a week and, with any luck, won't like it. Do you see what I'm saying? If you contact her prematurely, she does not have as much of a lightbulb moment where she says "This week without him sucked!"
Then, on Tuesday, I'd do some romantic gesture (flowers, sending her favorite take-out to her house) with a note saying "I missed you this week. Can we talk tonight? I'll be home".
Brother, block out anybody saying she's probably cheating. They just like to stir the pot and don't actually care what happens to you.
You can make it 3 more days. Consider this - by not contacting her, you're allowing her to miss you (hopefully). When you do talk on Tuesday, she will have seen what life is like without you for a week and, with any luck, won't like it. Do you see what I'm saying? If you contact her prematurely, she does not have as much of a lightbulb moment where she says "This week without him sucked!"
Then, on Tuesday, I'd do some romantic gesture (flowers, sending her favorite take-out to her house) with a note saying "I missed you this week. Can we talk tonight? I'll be home".
I agree with all this except the romantic gesture part.
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