My girlfriend said she needed some time to clam herself down, and request not to see each other temporarily? (dating, married)

[dio9366]

So we have been dating for one and half year, so this is quite a long tern, intimate relationship. We know each other very well and we allowed each other to walk into both life pretty much very deeply. She even talks about getting married and have kids.
During this time, we fought quite a few times. The problem mostly because of
communication or idea differences. She was not a very good communicator, and I am kind of thick headed. My problem probably was my ego, I tend to walk away or keep distance every time we fought, saying something like "Forget it" or " Maybe we both need some time alone" things like that.

Maybe she thinks that every time we fought it is always her problem and I am always stay upper handed. This time we fought over some small unimportant matters,she said to me she need to clam down and she doesn't want to see me temporarily. I was quite surprise when she told me that. I knew sometimes I did hurt her feelings pretty deeply. I am not very good at express or sense others emotions. I do love her, maybe in time I made her felt that she is not important to me, but the truth is that she IS very important to me.

Should I let her know this? or should I give her some time and space to think about it? please help! Thank you!

[Spartacus713]

What does her "clamming down" procedure consist of?

[JustJulia]

You mean "calm down."

It sounds like you had a bad fight and she doesn't want to see you right now. Can you write her a letter from your heart and ask her to read it?

[hawaiiancoconut]

I think, you should tell her how feel, and also give yourselves some time apart.

P.S/ Quit being a dick by walking away. Have some resolve when faced with problems -communication!

[maf763]

Sounds like she might be tired of passive aggressiveness.

[funymann]

You know, what happens when you leave a clam alone?? You get a pearl.

Leave her alone.

[dio9366]

Hey! Stop joking around! I know I miss-typed the word.

This is quite a serious problem. She is not a very good communicator, we fought because

every time she felt sick or upset, she tend to let her emotions out instead of communicate the problem,

That sometimes forced me to walked away because I can't stand her ill temper!

Hope you guys experts can help out with that!

[Spartacus713]

Here check this thread out. I think it answers your question, as best as it can be answered. We have been discussing this over the last few days:

The "Sorry its not you its me speech" what does it TRUELY MEAN?