Ego or not - you tell me

[1orlando]

Originally Posted by Immerse

Had an argument lately about it with my significant other. Am I being unrealistic or over the line with my expectations? The expectations are I want to know what we have is better than anything either of us had in the past. She denies these claims saying that it doesnt work like that and it's not a competition. But isnt that the purpose of every new relationship? Taking it to the next level instead of just saying "every relationship is different". I feel like part of my thinking is ego related but I can't seem to know how to get rid of this mindset.

I don't blame you man, you want to be the The Main Meal not the dessert, The Front Row seats not the general admission seats, The New Car not the clunker she ends up with after the repossesion, The Main Event not the press conference, The Winner not the runner up, The Gold Medalist not the bronze one, The Leading Actor not the cameo actor, The Teacher not the substitute, The Main Singer not the choir, The Quarterback not the reserve player, The Head Coach not the assistant coach, The President not the press secretary, The General not the liutenent, The Manager not the shift supervisor, Mr Olympia not one of the top ten finalist,
Well you get the picture I hope this makes your day better.

[the minx]

Originally Posted by MoonBeam33

You will destroy your relationship by insisting on this, even if it IS the best she's ever had.

No kidding.

I was talking to a guy online a while back and we made plans to meet. He kept asking me if I was excited and if I really wanted to meet. I agreed to meet but that wasn't enough for him. He needed to know that I was ****-my-pants happy about it. Even after I reassured him, he kept saying he didn't believe me. Completely turned me off.

[Immerse]

Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76

How long have you been with her for?

1.5 year almost

[rosebyanothername]

I have to say that you have an interesting "take" on relationships; however, it isn't like we are buying a newer car and "trading up". Each relationship should be different and interesting and when you get into comparing one person from someone or ones in your past, therein lies the problem. You are not meaning to offend your gf it doesn't sound like to me....you just want to have the best relationship you have ever had. Maybe just change the way you word it. One thing that is very important in relationships, and that is to remember that you don't always have to be right.

[Nancy739]

If you are referring to sex, do you really want the truth?