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re long distance. i know rance has heard this one
did i ever tell you about my eharmony blond cutie in nashville? the one i emailed and phoned for a few months then took the plunge, a flight to nashville, met quasimoto in the parking lot, i kid you not.
Yes i heard about it on the Jerry Springer show......that was a freaky episode...
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re long distance. i know rance has heard this one
did i ever tell you about my eharmony blond cutie in nashville? the one i emailed and phoned for a few months then took the plunge, a flight to nashville, met quasimoto in the parking lot, i kid you not.
It is kind of crazy to give up your life for another person.. I dont think that is what is supposed to be happening.. you do not sacrafice your life for another person... In my books you are supposed to supplement that other person. If someone has to sacrifice for someone else.. all that normally happens are feelings are bent out of shape when things do not work out .. and that person thinks about all of the things they have given up to be with that person..
Personally I would never give anything up for anyone.. you take me at face value.. the way I come packaged.. if you dont like what you see.. screw ya... you dont need me.. find someone else.
I have not sacrificed anything to be with someone I am just asking how far should someone go if they truly care about a person. I am dating a guy that is in the Air Force and if I want to remain in a relationship with him I am mostly likely going to have to find a career to where I can travel at anytime if need be if we truly want to make it work. Unfortunately when your in the military it is always service before self. Eventually most people give up something for someone they love my question is how much should you have to give up?
I have not sacrificed anything to be with someone I am just asking how far should someone go if they truly care about a person. I am dating a guy that is in the Air Force and if I want to remain in a relationship with him I am mostly likely going to have to find a career to where I can travel at anytime if need be if we truly want to make it work. Unfortunately when your in the military it is always service before self. Eventually most people give up something for someone they love my question is how much should you have to give up?
I am dating a Navy man, and in 2.5 years, this is what Ive learned (so far, there's soo much more to learn )regarding your question.
1. Dont give up yourself. Its very easy to lose "you" while you're waiting for him to come home from long periods away. ( I dunno how long these periods are for Air Force...Navy is sometimes around 6-9 months Im told)
2. Dont give up a dream you've held onto for years. Postpone it, if necessary, but dont let it go. You might end up resenting it later, which will cause problems.
Give up your love, give up your loyalty, and give up your patience...he will need them all, as you will need his.
I don't think you have to give anything up to have a LDR work. Just trust your SO and keep busy. Fortunately I work a 2 week on 2 week off schedule so I was busy and not dwelling on the fact we were so far apart. She was attending school 5 days a week so she was busy as well. We did get to see each other every other month or so and we did not waste one minute of our time together. If we wern't traveling we were snuggling on the couch watching tv and drinking tea.
I completely trust her while we are apart. We both have friends and I would never try to take that away from her. She needs those friends when I'm not there.
I know she has sacrificed some school time to travel and visit me...and with my schedule I really don't have to sacrifice anything. Our relationship just feels right to me. She is here now for a few months but will be leaving soon to return home. Only this time we will be married. I feel it's going to hurt a little more when she goes...but I'll get to see her again soon. If you have one inkling of distrust or jealousy I would advise against considering a long distance relationship. You will only drive yourself insane. I believe we are very fortunate in our relationship and it seems to be working just fine for us. I think I was blessed to meet a fine young lady that played no games and the picture she sent was actually her. I thought I knew what love was before I met her...but in reality I had no idea.
I am sure about my relationship now. I realized that the main thing that I have to do is believe. If I believe that my relationship is going to work then it will. If you love someone and they truly love you they will not cheat on you or disrespect you in anyway behind your back. If it is meant to be then things will be fine. As far as the Air Force goes if we get married I will be able to live with him and he will most likely be deployed every 9-15 months to Iraq which he will stay there anywhere from 5-6 months which is not bad. I am just trying to find a career that will be suitable for me if I have to move a lot. If anyone has any ideas I would really appreciate it. If anyone needs to talk about any problems they are having with there LDR. It is always good to have someone to talk to whenever your dealing with a LDR.
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ummm...i could handle it, in fact i think it could be ideal, that way u arent getting sick of one another too soon and there is always a new mystery and excitedness of renewing what you dont know about one another when u meet again....and then there are other positive things..
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so, they need someone to be there physcially to feel secure?? I always thought it was emotionally secured.... If it was physically secured.... wouldn't that be considered "not being trusted"?
No, it's called 'being human'. It's natural for one to want to be near the person they commit to. There are people who can do it without batting an eye but they're the ones who are also too busy to realize you're absent.
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